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Summary: We struggle with loneliness in silence. And yet you and I were made for relationship. How can you overcome your loneliness?

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Overcoming Loneliness

Matthew 26:26-44

Columnist Marla Paul reluctantly admitted in an article she wrote that she was lonely. “The loneliness saddens me. How did it happen that I could be 42 years old and not have enough friends?” She ended her column with these words: “I think there are women out there who don’t know how lonely they are. It is easy enough to fill up the day with work and family. But no matter how much I enjoy my job and love my husband and child, they are not enough. I recently read Han Christian Anderson’s book, “The Ugly Duckling.” I felt an immediately kinship with this bird who flies from place to place looking for creatures with whom he belongs. He eventually finds them. I hope I do too.” After the column was published, the telephone started to ring. People stopped her on the street and at her daughter’s school. Letters poured in from housewives, executives and university professors. The column generated 7 times more mail than usual. Marla said, “They wanted to share their frustration and estrangement. All were tremendously relieved to discover that they weren’t the only ones.” The Gallop poll says that loneliness affects more than 1/3 of the population and psychologists say that figure is rising. At a recent Christian Conference, a poll found that 92% of all participants struggled with loneliness.

And yet we struggle with loneliness in silence. Lee Strobel writes, “People today will admit any problem –drugs, divorce, alcoholism- but there’s one admission that all people are loath to make, whether they are a star on television or someone who fixes televisions in a repair shop. It’s just too embarrassing. It penetrates too deeply to the core of who they are. People don't want to admit that they are sometimes lonely. Loneliness is such a humiliating malady that it ought to have its own politically correct euphemism” relationally challenged. Or its own telethon. Anything to make it safer to confess. Because right now, it’s taboo, an affliction of losers and misfits. And to be honest, of respectable people like you and me.” Listen to our music and you hear the lonely voices:

- Carole King : Winter, spring, summer or fall, all youn ahev to do it call and I’ll be there

- Paul McCarthy: All the lonely people, where do they all come from? All the lonely people, where do they all belong?

- Elvis Presley: Just take a little walk down lonely street to heartbreak hotel

- James Taylor: Do me wrong, do me right, Tells me lies but hold me tight. Save your goodbyes for the morning light but don't let me be lonely tonight

- Bonnie Rait: What can I do to get you back? I’m feeling desperate and lonely

Henri Nouwen in his book, “Reaching Out” said these words: “Loneliness is one of the most universal sources of human suffering today. Psychiatrists and clinical psychologists speak about it as the most frequently expressed complaint and the root of not only an increasing number of suicides but also of alcoholism, drug abuse and other major physical and psychological problems.” And it can have devastating effects. The perpetrators of the Columbine High School tragedy, Eric Harris and Dylan Kleighbolt, wrote in his diary: “I hate you people for leaving me out of so many fun things. You people had my phone number and I asked but no, no, no, no, don't let the weird Eric kid come along.” Jesus knew loneliness too as all of the disciples left him and ran away. What an experience to have those you love the most leave you when you need them most.


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