Summary: We even fear commitment to areas that demand commitment to make them work from marriage, to raising children, to deep friendships, to discipleship & to following Jesus. God though wants us to make the right commitments in life. So God sent Jesus on a gre
OVERCOMING YOUR FEAR OF COMMITMENT
Our society has a fear of commitment. We’d rather bail out than blast through. We’d rather leave than last. We’d rather throw in the towel than stay in the game. It’s so easy to waver and waffle and go the way of least resistance and effort. Why? Because we fear this ten-letter word that symbolizes accountability, integrity, and discipline. We fear commitment.
From month-to-month apartment leases to month to month gym memberships, from refusal to sign a cell phone contact to job or career hopscotch, from couples just living together to going from partner to partner, from rejecting intimacy to refusing marriage, from prenuptial agreements to seeking separation or divorce, from the necessity of contracts to legal escape clauses. It is seen is staying aloof from friends and family and in a proneness to escapism or ambivalence. It is seen in our inability to get seriously involved in projects, to making long-term friendships or connections. It is experienced in uncertainty or indecisiveness concerning some things. Our culture is characterized by a lack of or fear of commitment.
If your not sure that our culture has a fear of commitment, here are just a few statistics to prove my point. Signs of Reduced Commitments in Life (America 1990)
1. The divorce rate is climbing: more than half of all new marriages end in divorce.
2. Adults feel that they have fewer close friends than did adults in past decades.
3. Brand loyalty in consumer purchasing studies has dropped in most product categories, and by as much as 60% in some categories.
4. The proportion of people willing to join an organization such as a church, labor union, political party, club and community association is declining.
5. Book clubs and record clubs are less likely to attract new members when multiple year or multi-product commitments were required.
6. The percentage of adults who sense a duty to fight for their country, regardless of the cause, has dropped.
7. The percentage of people who commit to attend events but fail to show is on the rise.
8. Today’s parents are less likely to believe that it is important to remain in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the children than they were 20 years ago. [The Frog in the Kettle by George Barna]
Commitment means pledging yourself to a position no matter the price tag, pledging yourself to a stance no matter what the cost. But if you make the effort to invest in godly commitments, the returns will be awesome.
"I don’t want to be hemmed in," we declare. "I want to keep my options open. I don’t want to be stifled or handcuffed." We even fear commitment to areas that demand commitment to make them work from marriage, to raising children, to deep friendships, to discipleship, and to following Jesus.
God though wants us to make the right commitments in life. So God sent Jesus on a great search for people who will make an unswerving commitment to follow Him (CIT). God wants to change us from fair weather fans of God to committed followers Jesus. Keep your Bibles open to Luke 9:57-62 as we will look at Jesus’ call to commitment. Luke introduces three people who wanted to join Jesus on His journey. He teaches us that being a disciple of Jesus requires a focused commitment.