Summary: A sermon for the family on various Proverbs about being quarrelsome and ill-tempered (Outline came through e-mail to me. I don't know who the author is)
Song- Man Who Wrote Home Sweet Home
Man gets up early in the morn And leaves his wife in bed. She lies there as the kids wake up and cry, "Get up and cook some bread." Let me tell you a thing or two, That a woman like that won't never do, And the man that wrote the Home Sweet Home, He never was a married man.
CHO: He never had no loving wife To greet him with a frying pan. She'll meet you at the door when you go to come in And knock you down with a rolling pin, And the man that wrote the Home Sweet Home, He never was a married man.
2. Man comes in at dinner time, Hungry and he wants to eat. Finds his wife piled up in the bed, Lying there sound asleep. Gets so mad that he pulls his hair, He swears and declares that he won't stay there, And the man that wrote the Home Sweet Home, He never was a married man. CHO.
3. Man comes in from work at night, Tired and he goes to bed. The baby lying there in the cradle, Screaming like he'll raise the dead. He'll sit and rock for about an hour, And never a hand to help prepare, And the man that wrote the Home Sweet Home, He never was a married man. CHO.
Proverbs 19:13- a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.
Proverbs 21:9 (Also Proverbs 25:24) - Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. The reference is probably to the little guest room that would be built on the roof. It would be cramped and lonely--but peaceful in avoiding strife.
Proverbs 21:19- Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.
Proverbs 27:15-16: A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.
What am I trying to do, pick on wives? No, the same thing can apply to husbands. When it comes to husbands, it can turn violent. Every 15 seconds a woman in this country is beaten by her husband or boyfriend. That is a problem in the world, not in the church. Oh really, Dennis Conner, a preacher at a small church in NC said that in his long ministry (20 years), 3 cases of domestic violence have happened in the membership of the church. What can the church do? Above all, believe the sister who talks of domestic violence. A woman in such a situation usually tells just the tip of the iceburg when it comes to the violence. A woman usually understates the seriousness and intensity of the violence. At great risk in coming to us (you), so why would she lie? Experts say that women are beaten about 5 times before they ever dial 911. Next, take this very seriously. The abuser should be held accountable. The victim needs to be protected. Christian leaders and members, who do not understand domestic violence often advise them to return to their homes and be “better wives,” “serve your husband,” “submit to your husband,” “forgive your husband,” “you must endure suffering” and “You made your bed, you lie in it!” When the wife ends up dead, we realize our errors.
We rightly take stands against divorce. Jesus commands us to do this. However, look at Malachi 2:16: I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty.
If there is anywhere that patience, gentleness and long-suffering should be exhibited, it’s at home.
One word stands out and that is quarrelsome. This person likes and thrives on strife and contention. This person can never be satisfied with what comes their way in life. They have the misconception that everything in life is to be perfect and they do not tolerate any contradiction to their will or wishes.
Proverbs says it is better to on a corner of the roof or live in a desert than to be sitting in a wide, spacious, and elegant room with him or her.
It’s like a constant irritation. There can be no relaxing or comfort in their presence.
Thesis: Let’s talk about domestic unrest tonight.
Reasons for domestic unrest
A distorted view of real life.
Things in life are not perfect. A perfectionist is one who refuses to live with anything less than perfection. They cannot tolerate mistakes and they leave us feeling that we could have done just a little better, regardless of how well we’ve accomplished a task. Great illustration of a perfectionist. John Quincy Adams held more important offices than anyone else in the history of the U.S. He served with distinction as president, senator, congressman, ambassador to major European powers, and participated in various capacities in the American Revolution, the War of 1812, and events leading to the Civil War. He was a faithful Christian and even wrote some hymns that survive to this day. Yet, at age 70, with much of that behind him, he wrote, "My whole life has been a succession of disappointments. I can scarcely recollect a single instance of success in anything that I ever undertook."