Summary: A PROVERBS-DRIVEN LIFE ACCEPTS THE CALLING TO RAISE CHILDREN AS A TASK DELEGATED AND DIRECTED BY GOD.
Raising Kids that Don’t Disappoint
November 13, 2011
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15
Happy children are children with boundaries and who are well disciplined. Children who respond well to their parents and other authority will generally excel better in the class room and on the sports field. There is nothing better than a child who has the self-discipline to achieve and work towards goals.
How do you discipline children ?
In a survey of more than 2,000 parents of children between the ages of 2 and 11,
38% were using the same discipline methods their own parents used on them as a child.
45% of the parents using time-outs as a disciplinary action.
42%removed their child’s privileges,
13% who resorted to yelling
9% who opted to spank their children. Here is the bummer
31% of participants reported they believed their methods were not effective !
The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse has released an extensive study on teens and substance abuse. Their main finding was that "teens whose parents have established rules in the house have better relationships with their parents and a substantially lower risk of smoking, drinking, and using illegal drugs than the typical teen."
The study discovered that the successful parents habitually did at least 10 of the following 12 actions:
Monitor what their teens watch on TV
Monitor what their teens do on the Internet.
Put restrictions on the CDs they buy.
Know where their teens are after school and on weekends.
Are told the truth by their teens about where they really are going.
Are "very aware" of their teens academic performance.
Impose a curfew.
Make clear they would be "extremely upset" if their teen used pot.
Eat dinner with their teens six or seven nights a week.
Turn off the TV during dinner.
Assign their teen regular chores.
Have an adult present when the teens return home from school.
Pete Hartogs, "Study: Rules Improve Parent-Child Relationship," CNN Online (02-21-01); submitted by Jerry De Luca, Montreal, Quebec, Canada
Proverbs 19:18 Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death.
A PROVERBS-DRIVEN LIFE ACCEPTS THE CALLING TO RAISE CHILDREN AS A TASK DELEGATED AND DIRECTED BY GOD.
This is the great calling of every parent and by extension the parent’s support network.
* Children are a great gift. -- Psalm 127: 3-5
Children are a great gift.
Ps 127: 3 Children are a gift from the Lord;
they are a reward from him.
4 Children born to a young man
are like arrows in a warrior’s hands.
5 How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them!
He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates.
* And a Trust -- Ephesians 6:4
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (NLT)
* Discipline of children is a major focus of Proverbs