Summary: Five practical keys to build a happy home. Read this sermon and bring a great change in your home. Make your home a happy home in 5 simple steps.
Secret to a Happy Home!
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Do you see your home as an oasis of comfort and joy or do you feel it as a battle zone? You don’t know when the next tension is arising?
Do you know most of the time people search for happiness outside the home? Now you can never be happy anywhere in the world, if you are not happy at home. The happiness of a country, happiness of a church, and the happiness of an individual begins at home. How happy are you at your home? Now, if you are asked to rate how happy the members of your home are (with you or in the family) in a scale from 1-10, what would the rating be?
The World Happiness Index 2016 research shows that India ranks 118th in happiness index. Denmark is No. 1, Australia 9, US 13, Israel 11. India comes below Somalia (76), China (83), Pakistan (92), Iran (105), Palestine (108), and Bangladesh (110)
In fact, Satan has made many families a conflict zone and zapped our joy.
“It is not how big the house is, it is how happy the home is.”
Secret to a happy home.
HF: I want to give you three ingredients happy families have in common.
Isaiah 32:18 My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest. When God instituted the family it is like a fortress, noting can break it. But there are some things we need to do with God’s help make build a strong family. Here are some things strong families have in common:
1. Commitment. Commitment is the assurance that this family will stay together, value each other for a lifetime, no matter what.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days.
Ruth 1:16 But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.
Mark 10:7-9 7‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Joke: One day Adam came home very late. Eve became upset. "You´re running around with other women," she told her him. "Eve, honey, you´re being unreasonable," Adam responded. "You know you´re the only woman on earth." The quarrel continued until Adam fell asleep, only to be awakened by a strange pain in his side. It was Eve poking him about the torso. "What do you think you´re doing?" Adam demanded. "Counting your ribs," said Eve.
Over the last decade I have counselled a lot of couples and children and one thing that stands out is that people today don’t understand commitment.
Nowadays most people enter into marriage in a very relaxed attitude, “If it works, fine, if it doesn’t, fine but I’m sure it will work because we love each other now!” Well, love is blind and they get into marriage, and marriage is an eye opener and then they say it will not work.
We take our marriage vows so lightly. Then problems come and people say, "I didn't expect this!" Oh yes you did, you said "For better or for worse" and now it's worse, so you were specific about this point, that you will be committed even now!
Is it love that sustains our commitment or commitment that sustains our love? It's the latter. Whatever problems we face, we face them together. Strong couples say: "I’m committed to you, no matter what." The word “divorce” is out of their vocabulary.
Commitment between parents and kids.
How committed are you to your children? How committed are you to your parents?
Colossians 3:20 Children obey your parents in everything for this pleases the Lord.
Children obedience is your commitment to your parents. When you obey them you are telling them you are committed to them.
There are 2 ways you can convey the sense of commitment to a child:
a. Convey to them they are a blessing.
Psalm 127:3 Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.
You need remind them that they are a blessing, not a burden. Media today sends the message that children are an unwanted expense, interference in careers, or an untimely accident. There are no mistakes, accidents, or surprises with God. Tell your children they are a blessing.
Illustration: In my school days we had teams to play football. There was a guy who would never be picked. Who wants him the captain asks? The other captain says, “I picked him the last time, you pick him now.” Have you ever been the last one picked for a team in sports? The poor boy feels, “I am not good, they are stuck with me.” There are many kids that are like this in our families because of what we talk.