Summary: The priority of Scripture isn’t to raise kids who might be successful in the eyes of the world, but kids who know God and are becoming just like Jesus.
This week, I came across a humorous article of things no parent wants to hear from their child:
• If you hear the toilet flush and the words "uhoh" – it's already too late.
• If you use a waterbed as home plate while wearing cleats it doesn’t leak – it explodes. FYI – a king-size
waterbed holds enough water to fill a 2000 sq. ft. house 4” deep.
• No matter how much Jell-O you put in a swimming pool you still can't walk on water. Pool filters don’t like
• Cats don’t like to be wrapped in duct tape.
• The spin cycle on the washer doesn’t make earth worms dizzy. It will make cats dizzy – and cats throw up
2x their body weight when dizzy.
• If you hook a dog leash over a ceiling fan, the motor isn’t strong enough to rotate a 42 lb. boy wearing
underoos. It is strong enough to spread paint on all (4) walls of a 20 x 20 ft. room
This AM I want to pick up where we left off 2 weeks ago. If you’ve not been here, we’re in a parenting/grandparenting series based on Pr. 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.
train up refers to the roof of the mouth – more specifically, it refers to a Hebrew mid-wife who after birth would dip her fingers in a paste made of honey/dates and rub it on the gums of the newborn to initiate the baby’s feeding instinct.
Solomon was teaching that in training up a child, our goal is to create a sense of thirst in our children for right things – for the things of God.
Too many parents miss this truth b/c they’re too concerned w/ what their kids might accomplish than who they are becoming. But the priority of Scripture isn’t to raise kids who might be successful in the eyes of the world, but kids who know God and are becoming just like Jesus.
You shall love the Lord your God w/ all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. These words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 6:5-7
Priority 1 – Get God in the right place in your life.
Priority 2 – Diligently invest Jesus in you into your children so they love God more than you love Him.
How do we TRAIN up our children? Using the acrostic T.R.A.I.N.S. – I believe there are (6) truth needed to partner w/ God to raise children who know, serve, and honor Him.
TIME – our children need both focused quality/quantity time from us to learn the necessary investments for life.
RESPONSIBILITY – in a world where entitlements are in surplus and everyone else is to blame for our plight in life – teaching our kids to accept responsibility for their actions and circumstances is paramount.
ACCEPTANCE – acceptance is unconditionally embracing your child for the uniqueness of who he or she is. It is never based on what our children do or don’t do – on their success or failures –abilities or inabilities – it is embracing them for who they are and who God created them to be.
INTEGRITY – is having a commitment to truth, fairness, and respect for others and their things. It’s who your child is regarding honesty and character when no one else is looking.
Today, we’re going to discuss the idea of nurturing our kids.
In psychology there’s an interesting debate over whether the particular aspects of a person’s behavior are the product of inherited or acquired characteristics – Nature vs Nurture. Nature refers to what we might think of as internal pre-wiring influenced by biological/genetic factors; while nurture refers to the influence of external factors after conception that shape and modify a person's beliefs, actions, and attitudes concerning life.
You might think this isn’t a big deal b/c both come into play in shaping how a person pursues life, and yet there are a number of ideas that come into play to justify a person's behavior/identity should one's nature and genetic make-up be more responsible than cultural/family influences.
As we delve into Scripture, there’s no doubt we are as the Psalmist wrote – fearfully and wonderfully made, knit together in our mother's womb – meaning God created us w/ distinctive personality traits and abilities. And yet, we also see throughout the bible that parents, along w/ a number of other sources, play a major role in a child’s development.