Summary: A sermon to help men to recognize the divinely created differences between men and women.
"The Adornment that Attracts" Pt. 2
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
8 Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.
9 Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.
Intro: First, let me make sure that we understand what kind of adornment we are talking about and where it's at. Peter is speaking of spiritual adornment and he tells us where this adornment is at. It is in the "inner man of the heart" What can we find in this passage to learn about adornment that is attractive? I am going to focus on just three things although there are many more here.
I think I'm safe in saying that the word "...likewise..." is the key our understanding of this passage. Basically, Peter is saying what is "good for the goose is good for the gander!" Men are to have spiritual adornments too. They are to adorn the "...inner man..." and make this inner man as attractive as possible for Christ.
I. Adorn Yourself with Respect
To "...dwell..." is to live together qualified by the phrase "...according to knowledge..." There must be honor given unto the wife and we have several reasons given for the foundation of that honor. But the word τιμη honor, signifies maintenance as well as respect; - maintain, provide for the wife. This relationship should be characterized by the recognition of:
a. The spousal consideration
The phrase "...according to knowledge..." involves what one writer referred to as "intelligent recognition." The husband is to live with his wife with consideration for her. Both men and women are "vessels" and both are weak in the sight of our Creator but the wife is generally speaking the weaker of the two and the husband should take that into account.
It is a saying of the Jews (s),
"if thy wife be short of stature, bow thyself, and whisper to her.
The meaning of the proverb is, that he ought to suit himself to her capacity and weakness:
Weaker does not mean she is weaker intellectually or even spiritually and the next phrase speaks to that issue.
b. The spiritual consideration
Joint-heirs of the grace of life (sunklēronomoi charitos zōēs). Late double compound found in an Ephesian inscription and the papyri, in N.T. only here, Romans 8:17; Ephesians 3:6; Hebrews 11:9. God's gift of life eternal belongs to woman as well as to man. In the eyes of God the wife may be superior to the husband, not merely equal. Robertson's Word Pictures
c. The supplicants' consideration
Hindered: The word means, literally, to knock in; make an incision into; and hence, generally, to hinder or thwart Galatians 5:7; 1 Thessolonians 2:18. Some, however, read ἐκκόπτεσθαι, to cut off or destroy. Vincents Word Studies