Summary: If you’re an effective leader at work or school. If you’re effective in what you do at church. If you’re effective in making something better - whenever you become you rise above the normal - you become at target criticism. And if you do not learn to sha
How do we handle critical people?
How many of you know someone who is very critical?
All of us will deal with people who are critical. (Give Life example)
Repeat after me, “I will be criticized”
Moses was criticized for marrying a Midianite
Criticized for leading out of slavery
Paul was said he was not a good teacher
Jesus was criticized for hanging out with tax collectors, healing on the Sabbath
PRAISE AND CRITICISM – WINDOWS TO THE HEART
It is better to be criticized by a wise person than to be praised by a fool! -- Ecclesiastes 7:5
Praise – often reveals what you value most. (have Adam give example) Adam values most about my compliment.
Criticism – often reveals your deepest insecurities. (have Cindy criticize him) Criticize dress code.
Hold log up to eye and repeat: “Maybe that’s why Jesus said:
How can you think of saying, ’Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye?” Matt 7:4
Let those phrases sink in:
Praise – often reveals what you value most.
Criticism – often reveals your deepest insecurities.
Why is it that people can be so critical?
The truth is, most of the time those who are most critical, are the ones that really don’t like themselves.
And they’ll criticize you, because it helps validate or approve of them—helps them to feel more important or more special.
The reality is that critical people are most often the ones inwardly who are most miserable.
So…how do we deal with critical people?
Sadly for some of you, you grew up with critical parents, and no matter what you did, you just couldn’t live up to their standards.
You tried and tried and tried, but could just never seem to do it.
That has affected you deeply.
Some of you may be in a relationship with another person where most of your converstation is characterized by being critical.
You’re never good enough, you’re not this, why can’t you do this, why can’t you be like this…
Could be at work, or friends who criticize you, and Christians, unfortunately, can be the most critical of other Christ followers.
How Do We Deal With Criticism?
1) FIGHT We often want to fight back. Your heart beats faster, your blood pressure rises… I’ll walk off from the conversation
2) FLIGHT we withdraw, so we keep them at a distance…to kept from being hurt.
1. LISTEN to constructive criticism
When their motive is to help not hurt. (struggling with your weight and they come up to you and offer you a way to help you lose weight as opposed to someone who says you better not eat another oreo cookie…
When the person can help.
If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise. If you reject criticism, you only harm yourself…
So many people aren’t maxing out, because they aren’t learning from constructive criticism…
2. A Time to ANSWER their criticism
When do we answer?
When the person is missing information that would change his or her perception. (hey, here’s something you didn’t know)
When the person is open to change. (some people no matter what you say, are still going to be critical) (some people criticize for a hobby, --don’t waste your time with these people)