Summary: This is the second of three in a family growth series.
Growing Godly Families
The Four Love Needs of Men & Women, Part 2
Three Part Series (2 of 3)
February 17, 2002 FBC, Chester, Illinois Mike Fogerson, Speaker
A Is has been said that "Marriage is made in heaven." So is thunder and lighting!
a Marriage is tough!
*If it weren’t for marriage, most men would go through life thinking they had no faults at all....
*Any married man should forget his mistakes because there’s no reason for two people to remember the same thing...
*A woman always has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is just the beginning of a new argument.
b A women came into her pastor’s office for marital counseling and the pastor knew he would probably be able to help very much when she walked in alone. She said, "I would have brought my husband, but we’d just end up arguing."
B We are continuing looking at "Growing Godly Families" with The Four Love Needs of Men & Women, part 2.
Last Week we looked at...(1) Unconditional Love (2) Intamacy
ESS: Godly marriages have certain needs that must be met in order to flourish.
a I hope my married listeners will work harder at meeting the love needs of their spouse. (Objective)
b How well are you doing at meeting the love needs of your spouse? (P.Q.)
Let’s dig right in with the next two needs of men and women...
III The third love need of men and women is....FRIENDSHIP
MT 22:37 Jesus replied: " `Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’  This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: `Love your neighbor as yourself.’
(Love (agape) with all your heart/passion, soul/prayers, and mind/intelligence)
(Love (agape) your neighbor/others/friend/spouse as yourself)
a Love used here is that agape love. (Unselfish, Unconditional, Sacrificial, I love you even....type of love!)
b Not only love God like that, love the one that lives close to you like that.
"Being a good Christian by being a good friend."
B You can be a good spouse by being a good friend.
a In America, 90% of married men call their wife their best friend!
b There are 3 words in the language of the New Testament for love.
You need all three to grow towards Godliness in your family.
Just a thought....the eros type of love in not mentioned once in the entire N.T.!
(1) Agape without Phileo=Admirer
(Respect, yes. You feel unworthy. Like being married to Mother Theresa. (She was single!)
(2)Phileo without Agape=Suite Mates (Room mates. I’ve got LOTS of friends. My wife needs to be more than just my friend.)
(3)Agape with Phileo=Sweet Hearts (Romance Blooms when you love your friend unconditionally!)
C What can you do?
(1) She needs you to be her best friend. Not one of her girl friends. (Let her vent, cry, understand)
(2) She needs your integrity. (When you are on the Internet she needs to know your looking at porn. When your at work your keeping your hands and heart to yourself.)