Summary: Helping husbands and wives to see the light of Christ design for their marriage
In a survey done last year by the Barna Group they found the likelihood of born again Christians getting divorced equal to those who are not born again. In their interviews, they found 35% of born again believers have been divorced along with 35% of non born again Christians. George Barna commented, ““Among born again adults, 80% have been married, compared to just 69% among the non-born again segment. If the non-born again population were to marry at the same rate as the born again group, it is likely that their divorce statistic would be roughly 38% - marginally higher than that among the born again group, but still surprisingly similar in magnitude.”
Some of you have been married and divorced and married again. Some of the divorces reported came before people became Christians. Today I want to deal with the marriage relationship of believers as defined in Ephesians 5:22-33 so we can move beyond the past and insure our future stability. Three points Paul makes concerning marriage.
1. Wives are to be Submissive. Ephesians 5:22-24, “22 You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything.”
Ladies, how many of you cringe when you hear the word submissive? Unfortunately there are some men who think the letters in the word wife stand for washing, ironing, food and entertainment.
Submitting is a choice. It is not something which the husband can or should demand, but the wife willingly give. Not in the response of being lorded over but in the act of being lovingly cared for. In Christ, there is no male nor female, both are one and on equal footing. In marriage there are different roles.
Understand, if there is violence and abuse in the relationship, get out, seek professional help but do not continue to be abused. Submission is willingly giving and no one should be asked to do or participate in anything which goes against their moral and spiritual convictions.
Submit, as you would to Christ, fully giving yourself to your husband. Submission is a hard thing, isn’t it? We also want to be in control. A Christian marriage acknowledges the need for leadership just as Christianity acknowledges the leadership of Jesus Christ. They say two many cooks spoil the broth and two heads is a deformity, unnatural so in marriage we wives are called to submit to the leadership of the husband.
One example we can draw of submission is found in Philippians 2:4-8: “Don’t think only about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and what they are doing. Your attitude should be the same that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not demand and cling to his rights as God. He made himself nothing; he took the humble position of a slave and appeared in human form. And in human form he obediently humbled himself even further by dying a criminal’s death on a cross.”