Summary: Every parent has stories to tell – from drug and alcohol dependency, teen pregnancy, the call from the local police detachment and the runaway that hasn’t called home in five years...It’s tough being a parent regardless how old the child is.
1. Filled with confusion or bewilderment; puzzled.
2. Full of complications or difficulty; involved.
Parenting (in using the words parenting or parents I also refer to caregivers or guardians or anyone having the responsibility of taking care of or having cared for children) is hard work when things are fairly normal. Hard work becomes exhausting labor when special needs replace standard care. Anxiety and breakdown replaces exhaustion when a parent feels completely out of control with little hope of improvement or change to the present situations. It is here perplexity shows up and makes itself at home.
Single parenting (or lone parenting, sole parenting) is even harder. Lack of food, clothing, warm shelter and health care puts children at risk. Day Care costs are so high many lone parents are not sure if it’s best to stay home and not work. But they have to work.
Lone parents understand what it means to be perplexed.
My nephew Alex – 16 years old with a disease called Sturge-Weber Syndrome. Seizures and convulsions are common along with multiple other health issues. His mental and physical functions are characteristic of an infant so he requires bottle-feeding, pampers and a wheelchair.
My sister can write a book on being perplexed.
Every parent has stories to tell – from drug and alcohol dependency, teen pregnancy, the call from the local police detachment and the runaway that hasn’t called home in five years. Whether challenges during infancy, extreme teen life crisis, or late life incidents, all create complications and difficulty in parents’ / caregivers/ guardians lives so that guardians are perplexed. It’s tough being a parent regardless how old the child is.
Some parents are feeling worried, helpless and beaten up. They’ve post failure notices on the walls of their lives because things are not going well with their children.
You are perplexed.
Don’t despair! The couple in our story walked the road ahead of us and can help parents experiencing dark times to get through so they not only survive but also thrive!
Series of lessons gift-wrapped by the Master Gift-giver!
The first gift-wrapped lesson is,
Mary and Joseph were normal, perplexed parents exposed to abnormal situations.
- Mary mid to late teens (believed to be 14-15 years old)
- A pregnant teenager that people could label as being psychotic (Psychosis: “characterized by a loss of contact with reality and an inability to think rationally.” Dictionary.com) – e.g. “I’m going to have God’s baby.” How do you tell a story like that without people thinking you’re out of your mind?
Even if Mary said nothing about the whole “God’s baby” stuff, to be pregnant could mean one of three things according to Reverend Phil Greetham:
1. She had been raped
2. She had sex with another man willingly
3. She had met Joseph secretly, and they had succumbed to temptation
Mary was deeply perplexed – she was bewildered by the visitation of the angel of God and certainly puzzled about how this would all play out in her life, Joseph’s life and her community (Lu 1:29)…