Summary: All relationships are risky, prompting believers to trust God for the outcomes.
Have you ever thought about the correlation between risk and
trust? You can’t have one without the other. I turn 60 this summer and
on my 60th birthday, if I can get Sue to agree, I want to go skydiving.
Don’t worry, the bank made the church take out a key-man policy on me
this last year that pays the church $1.5 M if I die, so I’m worth much
more dead than I am alive. So all through the process of putting on the
chute, getting on the itybity plane, flying up to 5000 feet, stepping to the
opening and then finally jumping out, what am I doing? I’m assessing
risk and I’m placing trust. Parachuting is a risky prospect because there
are no guarantees. The more risk I assess, the more trust I must display.
If there were no risk, then there would be no need for trust. And where
will my trust be? Well, part of it will be in that thing called a parachute.
But ultimately, my trust is not in that parachute, it’s in God.
Relationships and particularly marriage, are risky business.
What are the risks in marriage? I asked my staff to list a few:
She might turn out like her mother
Can’t adjust to their annoying habits.
Might get tired of him/her and want a new model.
He/she might get tired of you and want a newer model.
They might leave and take your money
Loss of freedom: can’t do what you want to do: eat where you
want to eat; buy what you want to buy; drive what you want to
drive; wear what you want to wear; play when you want to play,
Marriage failure. What if you don’t beat the odds?
Marriage mediocrity: not keeping it fresh and exciting
Heartbreak that comes with the suffering or death of someone
that you've given your heart to in marriage
Infidelity: seeking pleasure from someone beside you.
Rejection: they might see me for who I really am and not want
Not be loved in return; that is, put it all out on the line and then
not get love in return.
There are no guarantees, are there? Right now the survival rate
in marriage is about 50-50. The survival rate for parachuting is much
higher than that, about 99.8%. If the survival rate for marriage is 50-50,
then the percentage of successful, fulfilling marriages is even less. DO
YOU WANT TO JUST SURVIVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE, OR DO YOU
WANT TO THRIVE? It’s going to take extraordinary risk-taking and trust
on the part of both of you.
Turn with me to Ruth 3. This morning we continue to study the
book of Ruth and the great love story between Ruth and Boaz. In all
great relationships, there are songs that are sung loud and clear, and we
hear these songs in the book of Ruth. In Week 1 we listened to the song
of faithfulness and discovered this key principle: IN EVERY
RELATIONSHIP, PARTICULARLY MARRIAGE, THERE ARE TIMES
WHEN THOSE IN THE RELATIONSHIP MUST BE FAITHFUL,
REGARDLESS OF THE CHALLENGE. In Week 2 we listened to the
song of grace and discovered this key principle: RELATIONSHIPS,
PARTICULARLY MARRIAGE, CAN ONLY SURVIVE WITH LARGE
AMOUNTS OF GRACE
And now this morning we’re going to listen to another critical
song that must be heard loud and clear in healthy relationships and
marriages: the song of trust. ALL RELATIONSHIPS, PARTICULARLY
MARRIAGE, ARE BRIMMING WITH RISK, PROMPTING PARTNERS
TO TRUST AND BE TRUSTWORTHY, ULTIMATELY TRUSTING GOD
FOR THE OUTCOMES
So let’s dig in and read the 3rd chapter together (ON SCREEN)
v.1 “should I not try…” After Naomi hears what happened in ch.2, how
Boaz had cared for Ruth in the field, she seized on the opportunity to try
to find a husband for Ruth, someone who would provide for her and carry
on the family line, which is what the next of kin, the kinsman redeemer
was to do.
v.2 “winnowing barley on the threshing floor…” Now let me pause there
and explain the process to those of us who are city slickers. The
threshing floor would where the valuable grain was separated from the
worthless chaff. (PIC) The barley would be piled on a hard surface,
probably stone, and either an ox or the workers would tread on the grain,
separating the inner kernels from the worthless outer chaff. The workers
would pick up a bunch of the stuff, throw it into the air where the wind
would carry away the chaff and the heavier kernels would fall back on
the floor. This would be repeated until all the grain was gathered and the
chaff was blown away. This image, this process is used over and over
again to describe the futility of anything and anyone not godly. Psalm 1