Summary: This portion in scripture talks about the ideal woman, that godly woman that any husband, child, friend, business partner, employer etc will love to have a relationship with.
Let's face it; the virtuous woman is a hard role model to live up to, Does she even exist? I believe she does and if that is the case, I know it is not impossible to become this "virtuous and godly woman." I assure you by the power of the Spirit of God which dwells in us today; we can become women of excellence. Let's take a look at these outstanding traits of an excellent woman described in Proverbs 31:10-30 that has made her stand out and caused her to excel and rise above all others Prov 31:29. It appears that she even shines above great women of old such as Ruth, Miriam, Deborah, Hannah, and even Queen Esther.
Any christian woman who knows and adapts these features in their lives can become an excellent, godly wife and mother. Her ministry can grow under the nurturing hand of a faithful and loving God for it tells us in II Peter 1:3 that He has called us to His excellence and so it is His desire for us to be excellent women serving Him faithfully and wholeheartedly. Excellent in God's eyes does not mean "perfect" but it merely means a woman who puts and seeks God first in everything she does and put Him above everything and everyone in her world. She is a woman who wants to live a life that pleases the Lord, and she ensures that He is at the center of her life (i.e., in her home, ministry, marriage, business, work, etc). The book of Proverbs 31 lists all the characteristics/traits of such a woman and how she lives her life for God.
In verse 10, it tells us that the excellent woman is capable, intelligent and virtuous, who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels, and her value is far above rubies and pearls...
Now, let us take a look at these ten traits/qualities that make the Woman of Excellence.
1. She is a trustworthy woman, Proverbs 31:11
" The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.
For a marriage to be successful, trust is essential, I believe we all agree on that, and it does not take a relationship expert to tell us. The woman of excellence is entirely transparent with her husband, and she is honest with him at all times regardless of the circumstances. Her husband's heart is entirely at peace because he knows that she will not bring havoc or disgrace upon him and their home. He can trust her with the affairs of the house when he is not around. He is confident that when he is away from home for business, work, ministry, etc, he is sure that she will be faithful to him and the marriage.
As a former military spouse, I was prone to hearing a lot of disturbing stories about fellow spouses who commit the act of adultery while their husbands were deployed overseas or within the United States. Not only do these women cheat but also make decisions that negatively affect the finances of the home. It is so sad to see this happen especially in the military and a lot of times when these husbands return home, the marriage is literary in shambles because so much has happened while they were apart and the truth always find a way of coming out. It is so important for the husband to be able to trust his wife completely, especially in situations where he is on a dangerous mission or in a life-threatening condition. He, therefore, concentrate on staying alive, doing his job well, and coming back home in peace to his family.
2. She is a caring, protective and supportive woman, Proverbs 31:12
"She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her."
The woman of excellence is caring, protective and supportive of her husband, she does everything in her power to protect his interests. She lends a listening ear when he wants to talk about what happened in the office whether good or bad. She is concerned about everything that is important to him and supports him no matter the decision he makes on an issue. She is not an obstacle or hindrance in his life; she is there to assist him in his career, business ventures, ministerial work, etc.
3. She is a skillful and industrious woman, Proverbs 31:13-14
"She seeks out wool and flax and works with willing hands [to develop it].
14She is like the merchant ships loaded with foodstuffs; she brings her household's food from afar [country]."
The woman of excellence is skillful, is quite busy, no time for idleness. She works willingly with her hands and does so with a heart of gladness. She invests in quality items, both food, and non-food products that her family needs.