Summary: A BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVE ON CHILD REARING.
To Train Up A Child
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
He that spareth the rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 13:24
This day and age many of us have been persuaded that the training of the child is to be dictated by the secular psychologist, the teachers, and the government. Not many of us agree with the word of God, the fact that you can’t believe part of the word with out believing all of.
God was most certain that we would have wayword children and left for us the instructions of training God’s children God’s way. Just to share a few.
God left a place in his word where he shows the need for the use of the rod.
I’m talking about “spanking” sometime called
“whippings” this passage in Proverbs clearly states that the failure to apply the rod is due to the parents “Hating” the child.
Most parents and many educators disagree, Saying, “ I love my child too much to spank him.”
(A) Because they have no understanding of:
(1) The authority of God’s word
(2) The nature of love
(3) His - or - Her own feelings are priority
(4) Their own feelings
(5) The needs of the child
(1) The Authority of God’s word:
(A) Suffer the little children to come unto me and forbid them not.
(C) Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes he will give delight to your soul.
(2) The biblical nature of love
He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him discipline him promptly.
Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him witha rod, he will not die.
(3) His or Her own feelings are priority
The trainining of the child is a priority, however, in this training we must be examples, no more is it so, that you can tell the child "DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO," the fact is that the child is going to do as you do; Therefore, your feelings about biblical training is secondary, God’s word on this matter is primary, in that God made little children and he knows what is best for them, the same God has told the parents to use the rod in the training of the child.
Many of us have strong feelings that prevent us from training God’s children God’s way. To declare that we have the answers Is selfish on the behalf of the parent because the answer lies in the word of God.
The spiritual equasion is this:
NO WORD = NO GOD
(4) Understanding Ones Own Feelings
(A) You must look at yourself to understand your own weakness to your children and understand that this weakness is for your own self - fulfillment.
(B) Don’t be afraid to do anything because you fear your child may reject you, if this is so, you are loving yourself not the child.
Ephesians 6:4 Says:
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
(5) Understanding the character of God
(A) The parent who excuses himself from using the rod based on an excuse of loving the child too much does not understand the character and methods of God towards his own people.