Summary: Many couples use a lot of time and months to plan their wedding day but they never take time to plan their marriage. A quick advice that will keep couple together forever if they apply and live it daily.
Wedding advice to the couple – Mark 10: 7 - 9
Today is a significant day. It is a defining moment. It is one of the most defining days of your entire life. But as significant as today is, it is just the beginning of your marriage.
Mark 10: 7 - 9
This is a new beginning in your life. As you are coming together to become one today I decree you will be one forever.
I’m here today to give you a quick advice that will keep you together forever if you apply and live it daily.
If you apply and live these advice, no weapon formed against your marriage that shall prosper.
Many couples use a lot of time and months to plan their wedding day but they never take time to plan their marriage.
The amount investment that you make into the future days of your marriage will result in a lifetime dividends.
The first thing to know is that you are doing what is right in the sight of God because marriage is an institution ordained by God.
If God ordained it, then make God the head of your home, make the Alpha and Omega.
My No 1 advice is that you should build your marriage on the solid rock of His son Jesus Christ.
Jesus said: "A wise man builds his house on Solid Rock.
And even though the rains come and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse, because it is built on solid rock. But a foolish man builds his house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will fall with a mighty crash. (Matt. 7:24-27)
I know that Jesus is your Rock. The rain/wind are trials of life – they will come. But be rest assure that you CAN withstand the storms that will come.
The 2n advice is Genuine Love.
1 Cor 13:4-8
There is a very beautiful passage of Scripture that I believe provides great advice for those who are entering a marriage covenant. Indeed, it contains sound advice for all of us to follow in our daily walk of life.
In vs. 4 Paul says, “Love is patient, love is kind.” Sometimes you will be stressed out. Sometimes you will be frustrated. “Love is patient & kind.” Sometimes you might want to give harsh criticism when your spouse does something foolish or hurtful. “Love is patient & kind.”
Second, Paul tells us that “Love is not jealous or boastful.” There is no need to prove that we are better, smarter, more professional, and more talented than our partner. Such selfish behavior in a marriage will make your spouse lose their confidence and self esteem.
Instead of been boastful, I will advise you to be proud of each other, build each other up, learn to praise the unique gifts of your life’s partner.
Paul’s next advice is to avoid arrogance & rudeness. Paul knows that sometimes we treat those we love with less courtesy even than a stranger. We may take our spouses for granted. Occasionally we may be rude to them in private. Even worse, we may be rude to them in public.
Paul would urge that we strive to treat our spouse with reverence & respect just like we would want him or her to treat us. Mt 7:12
Of all the ideals that Paul holds up before us, this next one may be the hardest. “Love does not insist upon its own way.” Insisting on your own way is not helpful. Such behavior is present in most relationships.
If both of you are willing to compromise; if both of you are willing to respond to the wants & needs of the other, & not just your own, then your marriage will be much more peaceful & productive. It is not me alone but Let mine be ours or me be us as from now on please. “
Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” In other words, love never gives up. It hangs in. It holds on. You can count on it. This is the type of love you are to have for one another - love that can be trusted.
My prayer for the two of you is that you will continue to grow in love - love for one another, love for God, & love for your neighbor. If you do this, you will not only have a blessed marriage, you will have a blessed life.
Petra and Joe, your Love will never fail in Jesus name.