Summary: Women today are more resourceful, more resilient, & more respected than ever before. But even in all this a woman still has needs. She still has an appetite. Her diet may have changed over the years, but due to her make-up, the woman of the 21st century s
CYCLES 4 SISTERS
“WHAT A WOMAN WANTS”
Text: Songs of Solomon 1:1-4
Introduction: A HUNGRY WOMAN
The book of Solomon is the expression of pure marital love as ordained by God in creation, and the vindication of that love as against both abstinentism and lust, the two profanations of the holiness of marriage. If these verses of text offend you as a Christian, it may be because the principle of the love of the divine Bridegroom, symbolized here by Solomon’s love for the Shulamite maiden has been twisted so by society that it seems evil for a married couple to express themselves in this manner.
Women today are more resourceful, more resilient, & more respected than ever before. But even in all this a woman still has needs. She still has an appetite. Her diet may have changed over the years, but due to her make-up, the woman of the 21st century still yearns for communication. She is in need of confirmation, as well as companionship. Even if she doesn’t need them all at once, she has to have what she needs when she wants it!!!
I. SHE WANTS AFFIRMATION vs.8-10
Up until verse 8 the conversation being spoken is between the Shulamite bride and her companions. She shares her heart with those who are close to her. She expresses her desires for him in verse 2 “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth:”. Immediately her associates confirm the fact that she is worthy of the Kings kiss in verse 3, “…for thy love is better than wine”. In verse 4 we hear the Shulamite respond with two words that every woman wants from those she loves “Draw me”. This is the key ingredient to winning the heart of the women we love & respect (“...no man cometh…”).
Women not only want to be drawn, they need to be drawn. Not force-ably nor vigorously, but through our affirmation of their worth. Women want to be made to feel that they are of value, that their contributions are valid and their passions are appreciated. This woman has uncovered her true feelings, her associates have responded with favor, but that’s not what she wants or needs. Finally in vs.8 the King speaks up. Brothers never allow anyone to affirm your gift before you or as often as you do. Your voice carries the weight of her heart. She wants to hear it from YOU!
II. SHE WANTS AFFECTION vs.12-14 “While the king sitteth at his table, my spikenard sendeth for the smell thereof.” The Shulamite draws a picture of the King sitting in one place, while her aroma, her affection is heightened by the thought of his presence. A woman has twice as many nerve endings in her skin as a man. Because her nerves are more numerous, they are also more susceptible to being “strained” (i.e. “getting on my nerves”). Her skin is literally wired to receive a loving touch of affection to soothe her frayed nerves and calm her emotions. She wants to be held in the right way, touched in the right place & heard as a clear day!!