Summary: Our roles from husband and wife seem to change quite drastically when we become parents. We will try to cover this subject as carefully as possible. We absolutely, as parents, have to understand that we not only teach, but that we must guide by example.
Our roles from husband and wife seem to change quite drastically when we become parents. We will try to cover this subject as carefully as possible. We absolutely, as parents, have to understand that we not only teach, but that we must guide by example. This topic is extremely hard for me. I know when my children were growing up, I was not much of an example for them to live by. I have since learned the importance of love and of leading by example.
We must also understand that it is through teamwork that we raise children. Many lives were affected as I was journeying along my own path of life. Not only relationships, but even as a parent. I believe I gave my children an ungodly view of life. I often times now worry about this because if my sons follow my example not only would they fail as fathers, they will also fail as husbands. They will make the same mistakes I did and have no real love and respect for others. This of course will also bleed over into their role as fathers. Their children will, unfortunately, learn the same things and the vicious circle will continue. I have vowed to myself and have promised God that I will be a better man and a better parent.
I believe I was a horrible person. I never respected women and others and as such sought to destroy everything good that God brought into my life. This message is serving two purposes. One, to reveal to you a little about me. The other is to teach you how to be the parent and husband that I wasn’t. In my testimony I touched on a few points of my life. Today, I want to go a little deeper than I have revealed before. Back in 1985 I was married to a wonderful woman. God had given me the opportunity to find true happiness and to also have a complete life. Through the love of this woman I should have become a great man. However, due to my own choices, I destroyed that hope. The truth of the matter is that I did not deserve her then and probably do not deserve her now. I believe I have learned the lessons.
Let’s get to the meat of this message. We are instructed to instruct our children in the way of the Lord (Eph 6:4). We are told that fathers are the primary responsible party to instruct the children. I would like to take this approach here. The family is like a sports team. You have the owner (Fathers), the coaches (Mothers), and then the players (Children). The father is the owner and works with the mother, the coach, to teach the team.
It is important here that we understand that we have the responsibility to rear our children in a Godly way. We must learn to discipline through love. You see in Heb 12:5-11 we are taught that the Lord disciplines those He loves. Also we are told that it is meant to be painful for a time. This is not saying we are to abuse the children, but we are to discipline them. (training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character ) It is through discipline that we harvest righteousness and peace. It is through discipline we are trained. We are to learn and then teach the ways of the Lord. God even disciplines from time to time. But that is another subject all together.