Summary: This sermon deals with marriage issues. In counseling couples I have found that they use the blame game. This sermon deals with some of those issues that cause strife in marrage and how to deal with it.
“All Right…Who Did It?”
1 Cor. 7:2-5
But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.  The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.  The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.  Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
· I remember mom getting all of us four boys together and asking that most famous question, “Who did it?”
· When the question was asked “Who took a hammer and hit moms good living room table leaving a big dent in the wood”….I had to confess it was me.
· Mom still brings it up once in a while when I’m home…and shows me the dent.
Whenever a marriage falls apart the usual question is the same…”Who’s fault was it?”
I have always found out that it usually takes two people to see a marriage spiral downward…but there always seems to be one who plays a major part.
There are such problems in a marriage such as:
· It is true that you don’t put a donkey with an ox to plow.
· It is also true that you don’t put two people together who fight against each other…both having no similarities.
· But I have also seen where the differences in a marriage was for the good….one persons strength helps the weaker one.
· There are those marriages that has a spouse that seems to have no feelings or relationship skills.
· There are needs that need to be met in a marriage for both the woman and the man…if these needs are not fulfilled…may lead to unfaithfulness…and many times to!
· One refusing to yield their rights…always winning.
· It is best for us to realize that when we get married…we give up our rights for the other.
· The scripture we read…shares this.
1. THERE COMES A TIME WHEN WE ASK THE QUESTION…”WHO DID IT”?
I guess the proper way to answer this question is to ask….”Who can fix it?”
· Most of the talk shows are spent talking about who had the affair, who was cheating on who…or how many people they have been sleeping with.
· Much of our news consists of broken marriages and broken homes.
· Yet the world still cries out….”How can my marriage be fixed.”?
· Everyone dreams of a happy home…If this were not true then there would not be so many re-marriages!
2. I BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE!
· It is the unselfish union of two people who care more about each other than themselves.
A cynic defined marriage as, “A community consisting of a master, a mistress and two slaves…making in all, two.”
Miguel de Cervantes in his 17th Century novel said, “Marriage is a noose.”
Robert Louis Stevens said, “Marriage is like life…it is a field of battle not a bed of roses.”
· A Pastor who was in the ministry for many years was asked the question, “When was there a time when the occasions left you speechless?”