Summary: Last Sunday was Mother's Day and in just a few weeks we'll celebrate Father's Day - which are days we set aside to honor our parents. But what does it really mean to honor our Father and Mother? A out...a small gift...


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Last Sunday was Mother's Day and in just a few weeks we'll celebrate Father's Day - which are days we set aside to honor our parents. But what does it really mean to honor our Father and Mother? A out...a small gift...

What does honoring mean for adults who are no longer under the care of their parents. How do we - or should we honor parents who were ungodly...abusive...maybe even ones who were never around...having left for no good reason? And why should we honor them in the first place? Does honor mean the same as obey?

We've been looking at the question "What does God expect from ordinary people?" in light of the 10 Commandments...not specific ones to this point but in a broad sense...but today I want to get specific and look at the 5th commandment..."Honor your father and mother" This command tells every child of human parents that their moral duty within the family is to honor those people who gave them a place in the land of the living.

And from this commandment we see that whatever else a person may feel about matter how deep the love or how great the anger...whether we're grateful - or resentful...we are called to respect those who not only gave us existence...but were given to be our primary teachers and guides.

From the day a child is born to the day the parents die...and even after they die...everything in their relationship may change except the moral duty of honor. No child, young or old, should ever dishonor their parents. But what does it really mean to give them honor? Today we are going to look at what this commandment actually requires...why it is given...and finally how this can be obeyed with all the complexities and conflicts of life.

Let's begin with what the Command requires. But to actually get a feel for just what this command says, we need to take a look at what it doesn't say. First..."Honor your father and mother" ignores the warm affection all parents want from their children. It doesn't tell children to be happy about their parents.

It doesn't tell us to like being with our parents on family outings...or to enjoy having them over for dinner...nowhere does it encourage or even mention happy emotional relationships. All it commands - is honor.

Another thing is that the Commandment doesn't tell parents to honor their children. The child's right to respect is nowhere in view. Now, we may agree that children deserve some sort of honor - just by virtue of being a precious human being...but this commandment is not about our worth as individuals. Honor is concerned with family structure...and the role of parents as teachers and leaders in the family.

I think the ancient Hebrew word for honor is very literally means "weightiness." And that simply means that to honor someone you had to respect them as people who carried a great deal of weight in your life. You had to have let them have influence...dignity...and most importantly authority over you.

Now, this command for honoring parents came more or less naturally for Hebrew children because they were raised in a patriarchal system...where the family centered on the oldest living male. And in that system children were not a nuisance or an emotional luxury...they were the link between God's covenant with the past and His salvation of the future.

But even though honor was such an important part of life back then...the O.T. writers could spot outrageous acts of dishonor easier than they could define what honor really was. And they had no mercy on those who would violate a parent's honor.

In Exodus 21: they hand down some harsh punishment for dishonor...v. 15 says, "Whoever strikes his father or mother shall be put to death.." And in v.17 it says whoever curses his father and mother shall also be put to death. .............We can see it was necessary...

But what does honor really boil down to? Well, honor was a willingness at least to listen to the voice of your parents...those people whom God gave to be their teachers and guides. For Israel, the family was the place where a person learned who he was and what God expected him to do.

And in the family...the father was the designated spokesman. Spokesman for what? What channel to watch...where to go on vacation? No! Look at Deuteronomy 6:6...READ

And in Psalm 78:5 the Lord "decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law for Israel...which he commanded our forefathers to teach to their children." It was the father's role to teach his children the way of the Lord...and the child was to listen.

And the way the child showed respect for the father was by listening...with a mind bent toward believing and obeying. And the honor the child gave was wrapped up mostly in respect for his father's role in the family. And again...we're not necessarily talking about obedience...but respect for roles...or position.

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