Summary: This funeral was for Tom, a 68 year old man who was not a church-goer.
Song – Peace in the Valley
14 The LORD upholds all who are falling
and raises up all who are bowed down.
15 The eyes of all look to you,
and you give them their food in due season.
16 You open your hand;
you satisfy the desire of every living thing.
17 The LORD is righteous in all his ways
and kind in all his works.
18 The LORD is near to all who call on him,
to all who call on him in truth.
19 He fulfills the desire of those who fear him;
he also hears their cry and saves them.
20 The LORD preserves all who love him,
but all the wicked he will destroy. Psalm 145.14-20
On his eightieth birthday, John Quincy Adams was walking slowly along a Boston street. A friend asked him "How is John Quincy Adams today?"
The former president replied graciously,
"Thank you, John Quincy Adams is well, sir, quite well, I thank you. But the house in which he lives at present is becoming dilapidated. It is tottering upon the foundations. Time and the seasons have nearly destroyed it. Its roof is pretty well worn out, its walls are shattered, and it trembles with every wind. The old tenement is becoming almost uninhabitable, and I think John Quincy Adams will have to move out of it soon; but he himself is quite well, sir, quite well."
If we live long enough, each of us will have a similar statement before we pass. Tom Silvers had his health issues and in all probability, we will as well.
Funerals remind us of:
1. The Certainty of Death (Ecclesiastes 9:5)
2. The Shortness of life (James 4:14)
3. The Shortage of life (John 10:10)
4. The sovereignty of God and Reality of Eternity.
Purpose of Funerals
1. Honor a loved one
2. Comfort a family
3. Reconnect with priorities
4. To remember
a. We generally want to remember our past.
• Story-tellers of Indians, etc.
• Photo albums – video slide show at the end of the service
• Monuments; headstones
o An anonymous tombstone: I was somebody. Who is no business of yours! (Stowe, Vermont)
o In a Georgia cemetery: I told you I was sick!"
o In a cemetery in Hartscombe, England:
On the 22nd of June Jonathan Fiddle - Went out of tune.
b. We also want to be remembered – we give pictures and gifts to be remembered.
Characteristics of Tom
1. To his family
Davina: He was our step-dad but to us he was always our dad
Tom and Sue were married 30 years; with this marriage Tom inherited and instant family with two teenagers and a married daughter who was expecting a child; He said that in one day he made his parents – In-Laws; Grandparents; and Great Grandparents at one time
2. To his employer – long-term employment except for USN years – Western Electric to AT & T; Lucent
3. To his country – USN – not easy in Vietnam era
4. To his neighbors and friends – “Neighborhood Grandpa”
5. To his community – Even though he was a Indianapolis Colts fan; he was also an OKC Thunder fan – he had been looking forward to watching the Thunder and the Pacers play (win-win for him?) but he was unable to see the game