Maybe we need to set up appropriate boundaries especially when people transgress our boundaries. This is not an act of condemnation but of self-preservation so that we can live out the love of Christ. When I worked at Pizza Hut as a shift manager, I got a call from a customer where we made a mistake except he was being verbally abusive and vulgar. I firmly apologized for the mistake offering to make things right but if his language continued then I would end the call. He promptly began another tirade. I simply said, “Good bye, sir” hung up. Fortunately, he called back and was much more cordial and we straightened out the problem. I didn’t hold any grudges against the guy. I thought it sad that something so insignificant as a mistake on a pizza would bother him that much and concluded that there must have been other issues at work in his life.