Wayne Dyer writes: "All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you...You may succeed in making another feel guilty of something by blaming him; you won't succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy."
Susan Jocoby writes about people who profoundly believe they are always losers in the game of life. She calls them "injustice collectors" (Pritchard, "Have You Stopped Blaming Others for Your Problems?")
* They endlessly repeat how others have mistreated them.
* They view the world as hostile and unfair to them.
* They are "beachcombers of misery" who see each grievance as a treasure to add to their collection.
* They have a hidden need to feel wronged.
* They live by the childish notion that life should always be fair to them.
"The tendency to blame others is deeply ingrained in human nature...Left to ourselves; we will do anything to avoid taking personal responsibility for our actions. Third, it tells us that blaming others is often nothing more than a subtle twisting of the truth in order to take the heat off of ourselves. Fourth, it tells us that without a deep working of the grace of God within us, we will do exactly what Adam and Eve did" (From a sermon called, "Have You Stopped Blaming Others For Your Problems?" www.keepbelieving.com).
(From a sermon by Paul Barreca, The Blame Game - Taking Responsibility in a World of Excuses, 6/11/2011)
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