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30 Reasons Why People Marry Wrongly 2
Contributed by Bishop(Dr) Sola Adetunji on Dec 14, 2011 (message contributor)
Summary: More reasons why people marry the wrong spouse
11 PEER PRESSURE
The fact that your mates, friends and colleagues have gone ahead of you in marriage does not mean that you should jump into marriage. Every man has his own destiny. Don’t be a fool! Just because all your mates are getting married does not mean you should force yourself on just anybody.
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12 LONELINESS:
Marriage does not completely deliver one from loneliness. So, to go into marriage as a cure to loneliness is completely wrong. I’ve heard people say they are going to marry so that they can be free from loneliness.
If this is the only reason why you want to marry, you may fail. Loneliness is a matter of the mind. You can be amidst ten people and still feel lonely.
13 SOCIAL PRESSURE:
When you are too concerned about the word of men and not the word of God, you may ruin your own life. Look, the world around you may see your singleness as a defeat, but how you see yourself is what matters most. To allow people’s opinion to force you into any relationship that is not of God to ruin your life, because marriage is life.
14 REPEATED DISAPPOINTMENTS:
If you rush into marriage because you have been disappointed for up to three or four times you may rush out again. According to Proverb 24:16 “for a just man falleth seven time, and riseth up again..”
The fact that you were disappointed twice last year does not mean you should marry just anybody as fast as you can!
15 SPIRITUAL WEAKNESS:
When you are weak spiritually you are opening the doors of your life to the devil and his agents who may come in and deceive you into a wrong relationship.
I have seen situations where people were charmed into marriage. Look you need spiritual strength so as to prevent any devil from hypnotizing you in marriage
16 INSENSITIVITY TO LIES AND DECEPTION:
Are you a lady eager to get married? Then don’t throw away your common sense.Be at alert. Get ready to discern lies and gross deception. Don’t give in to sugar coated life stories. Don’t let any man who just met you last month tell you he cannot sleep because of you! Let no one play with your emotions. Be strong and be sensitive.
17 PRIDE:
“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.”
If you think you are too much, your partner may elude you.
Don’t over estimate your beauty. Live in humility. Vashti was dethroned as a result of pride. God himself resist the proud and he giveth grace to the humble.
When you are proud, you are living outside the grace of God and apostle Paul said I am what I am by the grace of God. Without the grace of God you are useless.
18 PRAYERLESSNESS:
A prayer less Christian is a powerless Christian.
Watch and pray that ye enter not into temptation……..
The only way to escape the trap of the devil in marriage is through effective prayer. God must be talked to; he is still directing the affairs of men.
“Hitherto have ye asked anything in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.”
For your joy to be full in marriage you must commune with God through effective prayer.
19 INDISCIPLINE:
When you cannot discipline yourself, you may end up marrying the wrong person.
Discipline the way you relate with the members of the opposite sex.
Try to control the way you move around it is not every where you are invited to that you must go.
“and Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land.
And when the son of hamor the hivite. Prince of the country. Saw her he took her, and laid with her, and defiled her.”
Here, Dinah was defiled because she could not discipline herself.
20 FEAR OF THE POWERS OF DARKNESS:
Ephessians2:6
“….and hath raised us up together, in heavenly place in Christ Jesus”.
Where you are sitting now is the heavenly place, far above principalities and power.
I have seen people complaining I don’t ant to marry a witch and eventually they end up marrying an Ogbanje, why? Because what you fear will ultimately come to pass.
“for the thing which I greatly fear is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come to me.”
