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Summary: When was the last time you stopped to remind yourself of the battle we are fighting?

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As some of you already know, last week was hard.

A good friend of mine disqualified himself from ministry due to an inappropriate relationship with a woman in his church. While the need for vigilance in this area is fresh on my mind, I want to try to redeem this tragedy by offering the following 7 thoughts in an effort to spare us, our families, and our churches from a similar fate.

1. Don’t say it can’t happen to you.

While most of us readily nod our heads in agreement, in our hearts we can still live in functional unbelief of this fact. We need to constantly remind ourselves of Paul’s warning to the Corinthians in 1 Cor. 10:12

12 Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.

That means it CAN and COULD happen to us, and we must be vigilant in this area and all others. The world is broken, our enemy is against us, and our flesh is weak.

2. Repent of your pride and self-righteousness in this area.

The Bible clearly teaches

Prov. 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.

Every pastor I’ve ever known who has fallen into sexual sin was one who at one point believed that he never would. So often, it is our pride that allows us to “push the envelope” and think we are the exception to the rule. It is also pride that can keep us from getting the help we need so that we could have avoided this particular fall in the first place. Most affairs don’t begin on a whim. The seeds are sown in soil of an unhappy or tumultuous marriage. Brothers, if there are currently problems in your marriage, please reach out to someone and deal with them now so that you don’t become a statistic later.

3. Put all the needed safeguards in place–and keep them there.

Prov. 16:17 The highway of the upright avoids evil; those who guard their ways preserve their lives.

All of us know this is true, but are we living as if it is true?

We know that we shouldn’t being alone with a member of the opposite sex, but do we keep our rule faithfully?

We know we should have working porn filters on our computers, but do we?

We can all agree any of our practices can be cumbersome at times, but situations like this remind us that they are more than worth it.

Please, brothers, for the sake of the Gospel and our churches, heed the warning today and employ whatever specific practices you need to keep yourself pure and your ministry intact.

4. Don’t just have a plurality in place–have one in practice.

Far too many churches have a plurality of elders on paper but, in reality, have a senior pastor surrounded by “yes-men.” This kind of unhealthy leadership system only aids in the conducting and concealing of sexual misconduct.

If you are concerned about a member on your team, even if it is the most senior leader, please have the courage to sound the alarm. Of course, this should be done personally, honorably, and hoping the best for all parties involved, but silence is often exactly what allows deeds done in secret to remain in secret for so long. Don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions. Too much is on the line.


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