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Summary: This sermon deals with Our Friendships and Gives insight to what a True Friend Is.

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Gods Blueprint for Lasting Friendships

Proverbs 18:24 and Selected Passages

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

1. One of the most severe epidemics of our time is loneliness. Though most of us are surrounded by people, we live in a society of loneliness. Everyone, from little children to aging seniors experience feelings of isolation, rejection and seclusion. We often think of single people who live alone as being lonely, but some of the loneliest people I have known have been married with a house full of children.

2. There are two types of loneliness:

#1 first, there is SOCIAL loneliness. This occurs when we are isolated from our families and friends.

#2. Second, and worse there is EMOTIONAL loneliness. This is the most common type of loneliness. It occurs when we feel we have no one to share our deepest concerns, no one who truly understands our struggles or our joys.

Every human being needs friendships on two different levels.

#1 we need HORIZONTAL friendships. We need deep meaningful friendships with other people. The proverb says, "A man who has friends must himself be friendly." In other words, we have to work on building friendships.

QUESTION …….Do you work on building friendships with others or let it happen?

#2 . We need a VERTICAL friendship. The second part of our verse says, "There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."

That friend is Jesus Christ. Unless you have a personal friendship with Jesus, you’ll never escape loneliness.

Ex.33:11 "So the LORD spoke to Moses face to face, as a man speaks to his friend."

Jam.2:23 "Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness. And he was called the friend of God."

John 15:15, "No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you."

I WANT TO GIVE YOU A BLUEPRINT FOR LASTING FRIENDSHIP.

LET’S EXAMINE 10 CHARACTERISTICS OF GENUINE FRIENDSHIP.

#1 Friends Listen.

A. Genuine friends have open ears.

1. Many people are self-centered. They only want to talk about themselves. They don’t listen when you speak because they are too busy thinking of what they will say next.

2. A true friend will listen when you speak. He wants to understand how you feel and what concerns you.

STORY

Chuck Swindoll tells this story about one of his daughters when she was quite small. One day he came home tired from a long day of ministry. As he sat in his easy chair in front of a relaxing football game, hoping to catch the last half in peace, his young daughter approached him and began jabbering as fast as she could. Vainly trying to enjoy the game, Chuck said, "Honey, slow down. You’re talking too fast." Quick as a whip, the child responded, "No Daddy, I’m not talking too fast. You are listening too slow!"

B. Because Jesus is our friend, He listens to us.

Psalm 91:15 "He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him."


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George Mansfield

commented on Mar 9, 2007

This is an excellent lesson and it has my vote. Question is, whose sermon is it? I just finished printing the same lesson with different title from Ray Searan?

Lynn Schuyler

commented on Mar 18, 2011

Some good points have been made. Thank you. I too am curious about the source of this message. I found it on another site with Cooper P Abrams III entitling it The Fundamentals of Friendship... that was basically the only thing that was different. I hope that someone has not plagarized your lesson. It is good to use others brains (as Spurgeon would say), but to copy and paste is not ethical... especially when they are taking credit. May God helps us be honorable as we do His great work, amen?

Lynn Schuyler

commented on Mar 18, 2011

Some good points have been made. Thank you. I too am curious about the source of this message. I found it on another site with Cooper P Abrams III entitling it The Fundamentals of Friendship... that was basically the only thing that was different. I hope that someone has not plagarized your lesson. It is good to use others brains (as Spurgeon would say), but to copy and paste is not ethical... especially when they are taking credit. May God helps us be honorable as we do His great work, amen?

Lynn Schuyler

commented on Mar 18, 2011

Some good points have been made. Thank you. I too am curious about the source of this message. I found it on another site with Cooper P Abrams III entitling it The Fundamentals of Friendship... that was basically the only thing that was different. I hope that someone has not plagarized your lesson. It is good to use others brains (as Spurgeon would say), but to copy and paste is not ethical... especially when they are taking credit. May God helps us be honorable as we do His great work, amen?

Lynn Schuyler

commented on Mar 18, 2011

Some good points have been made. Thank you. I too am curious about the source of this message. I found it on another site with Cooper P Abrams III entitling it The Fundamentals of Friendship... that was basically the only thing that was different. I hope that someone has not plagarized your lesson. It is good to use others brains (as Spurgeon would say), but to copy and paste is not ethical... especially when they are taking credit. May God helps us be honorable as we do His great work, amen?

Lynn Schuyler

commented on Mar 18, 2011

Some good points have been made. Thank you. I too am curious about the source of this message. I found it on another site with Cooper P Abrams III entitling it The Fundamentals of Friendship... that was basically the only thing that was different. I hope that someone has not plagarized your lesson. It is good to use others brains (as Spurgeon would say), but to copy and paste is not ethical... especially when they are taking credit. May God helps us be honorable as we do His great work, amen?

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