Summary: When these 4 ingredients are present, & practiced consistently, then our children grow up solid, secure & confident of themselves, able to go out into the world & function normally. A father's blessing is essential for a child.
A Father’s Blessing
Intro: There is a crisis in our world today. Way too many Dads are MIA. Whatever the cause (and sometimes the cause is noble), the problem is what happens to the kids who miss out on what only a Dad can offer. When Fathers are involved in their kids’ lives in a loving healthy way, those kids are blessed indeed! But even among those who have a Dad in their lives, sometimes they are still missing something they need very much from him – His blessing.
-Now a blessing from a Dad could come in many forms (other than the car keys):
Words (Affection, Direction, Encouragement/Hope, Wisdom. Don’t undo the power of good words by harsh criticism, name calling, or neg. imprinting. Don’t ridicule to motivate. One Dad shared the 4 most powerful words you can say to your kid: I believe in you!)
Approval (Comes thru words, facial expressions, body language, responses. It is possible to approve of a person while not nec. approving of certain actions). Living without a sense of approval from one’s father leaves them searching for the approval elsewhere.
Touch (Physical touch is vital! The lack of it can send daughters seeking it elsewhere)
Time (presence, proximity- there is no substitute for being there!)
Life Example (Your kids will be more impacted by who you are and how you live consistently than by occasional words or actions. Start where you are, but allow God to transform you from the inside out by calling on Him and trusting in Him. That will produce the greatest diff. in your life and in your family!)
-I’d like to focus on a father and son in the Bible, and take a look at the blessing the dad passed on to the son.
-Our story comes from Genesis 27. Isaac & Rebecca had twin sons, Esau & Jacob, who were not anything alike. Esau was an outdoorsman with hairy arms & hands & he loved hunting & fishing. Jacob was more of a homebody, & spent a lot of time with his mother.
In the 27th chapter of Genesis, their father, Isaac, has grown old & blind, & he decides it is time to pass on the blessing to his oldest son.
-Now a Jewish father’s blessing was a formal delegation of the father’s leadership & authority to his oldest son. And since the oldest son was assuming the leadership responsibilities of the family, he also received a double share of his father’s possessions. So the bestowing of the blessing was a very important event indeed.
In vs’s 2 4 Isaac tells Esau, "I am now an old man & don’t know the day of my death. Now then, get your weapons your quiver & bow & go out to the open country to hunt some wild game for me. Prepare me the kind of tasty food I like & bring it to me to eat, so that I may give you my blessing before I die."
-So Esau leaves, & while he is gone, Rebecca, his mother, seizes the opportunity to secure the blessing for Jacob, who was her favorite. She quickly prepares some tasty food & tells Jacob to put on Esau’s best clothes. To help fool blind old Isaac, she puts goatskins on Jacob’s hands & arms to make them feel hairy. Then she sends him in with the food to ask for the blessing.