Summary: WE MUST LEARN TO LIVE WITHOUT BITTERNESS AND UNFORGIVENESS. IT DESTORY’S OUR JOY, PEACE, AND OUR REALTIONSHIP WITH GOD.
Title: A Lifestyle of Forgiveness
Text: Mathew 18:21-35
Intro: Have you ever known someone that had a problem with forgiving? Someone that held a grudge and would not let go of it. Most likely they walked around bitter and angry most of the time.
Paul is saying here that you must not allow bitterness to come between us in anyway because it can destroy our, JOY, PEACE, VICTORY and our RELATIONSHIP with Christ.
ILL. Once there was a millionaire who owned a lot in an exclusive residential area of a large city. This lot presented an unusual problem. It was only 2 yards wide but nearly 100 feet long. There was nothing that he could do but sell it to one of the neighbors on either side. He went to the neighbor on one side of his lot and asks if he would be interested in buying the lot.
The neighbor said, “Well only as a favor.” Then named a ridiculously low price
The millionaire exploded. “Why that’s not even one-tenth of what it is worth!” He stormed out and went next store. To his dismay the other neighbor offered less. “Look,” said the neighbor smugly, “I’ve got you over a barrel. You can’t sell that lot to anyone else and you can’t build on it. So there’s my offer take it or leave it.”
The millionaire was beside himself with rage. Within a few days, he hired an architect and a contractor to build one of the strangest houses ever conceived. Only five feet wide running the length of his property, his house was little more than a row of tiny rooms, each barely able to accommodate a stick of furniture. The neighbors complained, but the city officials could find no codes or violations to stop the construction.
When it was finished, the millionaire moved into the uncomfortable house. There he stayed until his death. The house, which became known as “Spite House,” still stands as a monument to one man’s problem of hate and unforgiveness.
There are a lot of Christians living in Spite House today.
Jesus told Peter that he should forgive. Forgiveness is a major part of being a Christian. When we refuse to forgive then we begin to allow bitterness to stop us from entering into fellowship with God.
- He was angry
- He was not ready to forgive
- He was holding on to grudge
- The father pleads for him to come in
I. WHY DO SO MANY PEOPLE HOLD GRUDGES
1. Most people hold grudges because of hurts
- We tend to remember things that have hurt or scared our lives
- “I remember what you did”
ILL. Clara Barton, founder of the American Red Cross, was reminded one day of a vicious deed that someone had done to her years before. But she acted as if she had never even heard of the incident. "Don’t you remember it?" her friend asked. "No," came Barton’s reply, "I distinctly remember forgetting it."