Summary: Fathers Day - A "real man" is able to express love, works for others, lives a real life, and makes a real difference
So guys, I want to challenge you on this Father’s Day. Keep working on expressing your love to your family. Your wife and kids may KNOW you love them, but they also need to hear it. Expressing love may not come naturally. It doesn’t to me.
Susan informed me that I don’t say those 3 words often enough. You know the words I mean. She tried to help me out and said, just repeat after me: I …. (I) La ….. (la) View. I la-view. Maybe that will help you. Go home and talk to your family about the “view.”
In his letter to the Thessalonians, Paul went on to say, Surely you remember, brothers, our toil & hardship; we worked night & day in order not to be a burden to anyone while we preached the gospel of God to you. I Thessalonians 2:9 (quickview)
Paul was a tent-maker. He and Silas and Timothy weren’t trying to create the big “Wal-Mart of Tent Making” business so they could get rich. They were working hard purely for the benefit of others. And that’s what a real man does. A real man works in order to provide for others, not just for himself.
2. A real man works for a real reason
We talked about how expressing love is hard for a lot of men. But this way of showing love does seem to come naturally to most men. When a man goes to work day after day after day … and when he uses that pay check to buy housing and food and clothes for his family … that IS a powerful expression of love.
Sometimes men who have trouble expressing their love verbally. It’s easier for them to show their love with their actions … by working hard to take care of their family.
It’s easy to take that kind of love for granted. This Father’s Day might be the right time to actually THANK your dad for all his years of working so that you could have what you needed.
Notice that Paul said “we worked hard, while we preached the gospel of God to you.” A real man won’t let work become his whole life. He’ll provide more than money for his family. A real man gives his time and attention as well.
I remember back when I was about 14 years old, my mom had a talk with my dad. She said something about how my younger brother, Karl, and I were getting older === and if my Dad didn’t take some time to do things with us, it would soon be too late. (Isn’t it funny how the Mom is the one who has to point out the obvious?)
But that’s all it took for my Dad. He knew she was right about it. So he bought a rifle and a tent and other camping equipment and started taking Karl and I out hunting in the Arizona desert near our home in Scottsdale. I have a lot of good memories about those hunting trips.
But the funny thing is … as I look back on it … I don’t think my dad even liked hunting and fishing. He knew I was interested because I had asked for a rifle. But after Karl and I left home, I don’t think he ever went hunting or fishing again.
The point is, he did it for us. He found something we could enjoy together and he took the time and expense to make it happen. My Dad worked for our benefit. And he also planned his recreation with our needs in mind. That’s why to me, my dad stands out as a “real man.”