Summary: What we hear about ourselves, shapes us. Messages children often hear lead them to be negative. God’s message to us is that we are loved and chosen.
Rev. Roger Haugen
If a Child Lives with . . .
By Dorothy Law Nolte
If a child lives with criticism . . . . he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility . . . .he learns to fight.
If a child lives with fear . . . . he learns to be apprehensive.
If a child lives with jealousy . . . . he learns to feel guilt.
If a child lives with tolerance . . . He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement . . . . he learns to be confident.
If a child lives with praise . . . he learns to be appreciative.
If a child lives with acceptance . . . . he learns to love.
If a child lives with approval . . . . he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with recognition . . . . he learns it is good to have a goal.
If a child lives with honesty . . . .he learns what truth is.
If a child lives with fairness . . . . he learns justice.
If a child lives with security . . . he learns to trust in himself and others.
If a child lives with friendliness . . . he learns that the world is a nice place in which to live.
What we hear, what we are told about ourselves, shapes us. This is not just for children but for everyone. We are either built up or torn down, little by little. What messages do you hear? What messages bombard us every day?
- You are too fat, too old, too young, too tall, too short
- not qualified, over qualified
- in need of this or that hair colour, investment solution, car
- win the lottery and be fine, meaning you aren’t now
- if you really were something you would be living in L.A.
Imagine how different life would be if we heard positive messages, affirmations of who we are. Just like the children, we are shaped by what we hear. Listen to Isaiah spoken to each one of us.
1 But now thus says the LORD,
he who created you, O Jacob,
he who formed you, O Israel:
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have called you by name, you are mine.
2 When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you;
when you walk through fire you shall not be burned,
and the flame shall not consume you.
you are precious in my sight,
and honored, and I love you,
Do not fear, for I am with you;
This is what God thinks of us! We are created, chosen, loved. This is the God who knows the number of hairs on our head, the God who claims us in baptism and tells us that we are chosen, that we are unique, that we are created in the image of the one who speaks to us with such love.
The God whom we gather to worship — grateful to be in the presence of this God. We gather in worship to hear positive affirmations that come from God. We open our worship with the words, “The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you all.” And I hear the response, “And also with you.” We share that peace with one another several times in the service. We gather to sing praise of God and bask in God’s presence, grace and love.
We hear affirmations from Scripture telling us who we are, whose we are counteracting the messages we hear all week.