Summary: Each of us have experience with bullying: either as the one wounded or the one doing the wounding.
Bullying: Far From Harmless
March 3, 2013 Chester FBC, Chester, IL Dr. Mike Fogerson
A Each of us have experience with bullying: either as the one wounded or the one doing the wounding.
1 Maybe you’re there right now!
a Someone is stabbing you with words, kicking you with cruel acts, hurting you, taking away your dignity.
b Maybe you can’t sleep @ night dreading to see the people @ school or @ work.
aa They have a name for you-but it’s not your real name.
bb They have a mission to take away your dignity, self-esteem.
cc Spit on you, trip you, knock your books out of your arms, stomp your ankles from behind.
cc Make fun of what you where; You get something for yourself they want to take it, steal it, tear it.
2 Why? For no particular reason.
a Because your small, whistle a certain song, chorus, band, not in sports, you can’t throw/catch a ball.
b Can run fast, far, don’t have the right clothes, . . . you’re different.
3 You tell the people who love you, shelter you, protect you . . . the only instruction/council we’re given is . . .ignore them, stay away from them . . . but no one does anything to stop the verbal, physical, emotional abuse.
a Ignore? Ignoring is acting.
aa Act like the words/actions don’t hurt.
bb You hear the words, feel the blows.
b You can act deaf/impervious to the pain but the stabs & arrows hit you anyway.
B You don’t have any choice but to be there (Gotta go to school, need the job)
1 If you had a choice in the matter you wouldn’t be there (classroom, hall, locker room, bus, cafeteria, the way you walk home)
a You gotta go so you get your books, back pack, lunch . . . gone.
aa “Kids will be kids; life is tough, we all went through it, it’s part of growing up.”
bb It’ll make you stronger; suck it up, kid.
cc Or, you wanna work here you’ll just suck it up & not cause waves.
2 Everyday you get more wounded, stabbed, bleed.
a Wounds fester, infected.
b That infected wound changes you because your spirit has been wounded has been wounded painfully (sometimes permanently.)
c Prov. 18.14, The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear? (KJV)
3 When injury/tough times come, we must be able to draw upon a reservoir of hope, faith, & confidence that God has put inside of us through His Spirit & the love/encouragement of friends.
a Bullies knock holes in our reservoir, drain us of joy, love, confidence.
b Won’t Christ sustain us? Give us the hope/grace we need?
aa I wouldn’t be here today if He didn’t! (That’s the rub.)
bb To prove anything ultimately it takes time/experience.
cc You have to live it out for a while, maybe a long while.
C There is a process that is involved with living out the proof that Christ sustains us.
1 Today, some of us are in the process.
a We have unresolved issues, wounds that need to dressed.
aa Forgiveness that needs to be forgiven; healing received.
bb Some of us adults have been carrying unhealed wounds since childhood.