Summary: True friendship is a gift of God, and a person who has a true friend should be thankful and appreciate that friendship. David and Jonathan are a beautiful picture of what true friendship is. What are the characteristics of a true friend?
Characteristics of a True Friend
True friendship is a gift of God, and a person who has a true friend should be thankful and appreciate that friendship. CS Lewis said that friends are people that face in the same direction toward common projects, goals – above all, towards a common Lord.” What draws people to be friends is that they see the same truth. They share it.” (The Four Loves) David and Jonathan are a beautiful picture of what true friendship is. What are the characteristics of a true friend?
I. A true friend is generous
A. Webster's New World Dictionary defines "generosity" as: "1. the quality of being generous; specif., a) nobility of mind, magnanimity; graciousness b) willingness to give or share; unselfishness 2) generous act"
B. Genuine friendship does not look for what it gets in return.
D. Friendship gives without expecting anything in return. Someone said it this way, "A friend gives without expectation and receives without obligation,"
F. True friends are willing to invest time, talent, and treasure in their friendship.
II. A true friend is trustworthy
B. You can trust a true friend. Not only will he listen, but he will also not tell others that which you do not want them to know.
C. Friends are people with whom you dare to be yourself. Your soul can be naked with them. They ask you to put on nothing, only to be what you are. They do not want you to be better or worse. When you are with them, you feel as a prisoner feels who has been declared innocent. You do not have to be on your guard. You can say what you think, as long as it is genuinely you. Friends understand those contradictions in your nature that lead others to misjudge you. With them you breathe freely. - C. Raymond Beran, in Bits & Pieces, September 19, 1991, p. 3-4
E. A friend is a person who does his knocking before he enters instead of after he leaves.
F. An enemy is better than a two-faced friend.
G. Part of discipleship is that of transparency between the disciple and the discipler. To achieve this there must be a bond of friendship that is established with a sense of trustworthiness where one can be oneself without fear of ribbing, ridicule, rejection, or rumor.
Therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips."
I. A true friend will listen when you speak. He wants to understand how you feel and what concerns you. He will keep confidence. His concern is you. His desire is to help you to be who God wants you to be. He has your best interest at heart.