Summary: This is the third in a series on Ephesians 5 & 6. I am indebted to Russell Brownworth who wrote the sermon entitled "Five Kinds of Love That Build the Home". You can find it on Sermon Central.
This is not going to be your traditional message on Husbands and wives. You know the messages you have heard before: “Men, Love Your Wives Sermon” and “Women, Respect Your Husbands Sermon”
Why? Well, Not everyone is married for one thing. All of us do have relationships with others. Friends, parents, and children.
Some will apply to marriages of course and we will speak of marriage relationships freely. But, I’m going to focus on the key building block of building a good marriage.
The building block is Love. The mortar is Respect.
The blueprints for what you build is all about submission. It’s not about ruling the other person. It’s about supporting and standing by them. And the foundation to any relationship you build must be Jesus Christ.
Let’s start by debunking a few myths.
Three Myth’s of Marriage and Relationships
Myth #1: Pressure Destroys
It is not pressure. All pressure does is accentuate the character of the relationship. If it’s good, pressure makes it stronger. If it’s bad, pressure elevates the temperature and it’s really bad!
Myth #2: Betrayal Destroys
Betrayal destroys trust and faith – not love. A marriage, a friendship, and a family can survive betrayal. I know many an example where there has been adultery or rejection and betrayal and the relationship not only survived - eventually as the trust is rebuilt - it got even better.
Myth #3: Lack of Compatibility Destroys
Listen to me. I have never met a couple who were compatable. No one is compatible with another person. No one! The ones I have met that were very much like each other weren’t compatable - they were just irritating.
Here is the reality. The opposite of Love is not hate…
Love is a consumning force for good in another person. Hatred is a consuming force for evil against another person. Apathy is a decision to not care.
The opposite of Love is apathy. The decision to not care. Moses called it the hardened heart. In a marriage there is a break and a divorce when someone decided to not love anymore.
In Friendship – someone decided to not love anymore.
In Family Relations – someone decided to not love anymore. The hard heart.
Let’s examine the five ways the Paul spoke of the consuming force for good for another person. Let’s talk about choosing love.
Choose Sacrificial Love
"And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her" Ephesians 5:25 (NLT)
Guys, Let me give you an example of selfless and sacrificial love in today’s terms. Are you ready? Give your wife the remote control…
Now ladies: Do not undervalue that action… It is a significant sacrifice for a guy! Several years ago my wife and vacationed in a time-share condo in Florida with my folks and hers. Susan was with us then. She adopted one room with the television it it. There were two other TV’s in the condo.
Now do the math... Two TV’s and three men. It was not a pretty site. There always seemed to be one man kind of wandering around not knowing what to do...
Now, that’s humorous – but it’s meant be a bit more.