Summary: Understanding and Improving Communication in Marriage

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 Relationship is the position you hold in respect of another or to someone else.

 The major problem in marriage is disrespect for one another, however, this primarily or mainly manifests in the form of breakdown in communication.

 One can then easily say that communication is very important because it is the No. 1 problem area in marriage.

 Open communication will solve most, if not all, difficult marital problems – Eph. 4:29-32; Heb. 13:16.


1. Communication is important – Mt. 18:18-20

2. Communication involves talking, listening, understanding and acting or taking action.

Greek – Koinonia – Fellowship – Intermingling – Intercourse

3. You cannot communicate unless there is a common ground. Communication comes from the word communion, i.e. common union.

4. Can be verbal or non verbal – Lk. 7. words, gestures (action), spirit (attitude)

5. Communication involves a sacrifice – Heb. 13:16; Jam. 1:18-19.

6. Communication is a process – it takes time; therefore requires patience

7. Makes one vulnerable – Gen. 2:24 (realm of nakedness)

8. The primary purpose of communication is to achieve bonding or intimacy (into-me-see)

9. Hinges on the Law of giving and receiving. Communication involves opening up and sharing yourself with another person.

10. Words can make or break people – Prov. 18:4ff, 21; 12:25; 15:1-4; 16:24


1. Fear – being ignored, rejection, ridicule

2. Pride

3. Selfishness

4. Misunderstanding – mainly as a result of poor listening skills, also poor regard or respect for one another and preconceived ideas (presumption) – Ps. 19

a) What you want to say

b) What you actually said

c) What the other person heard you say

d) What the other person thinks they heard you say

e) What the other person says about what you said

f) What you think the other person said about what you said

5. Attitude – not just what you say but how you say it

6. Poor Timing – a word spoken in season

7. Improper Perception – suspicion, previous hurts


1. Frivolous – Cliché – Hi, weather

2. Factual level – statistics

3. Fellowship – Personal judgement

4. Feeling/Emotional level – suppressing your feeling or emotions; level of vulnerability especially with a feeling of insecurity

5. Freedom – Total openness & transparency – Gen. 2:24-25


1. Quality decision – dedication

2. Establish time to share – making time for someone encourages healthy communion.

3. Take an interest in what the other person is doing – Amos 3:3; Neh. 2:20

4. Find a common ground; communication = common union – 1 Pet. 3:8

5. Avoid belittling remarks and Maintain a Godly purpose – 1 Pet. 4:11; Eph. 4:29-32; Prov. 16:24; Rom. 12:3. Spend more time discussing your strengths not your weaknesses.

6. Maintain courtesy – 1 Pet. 3:8; Prov. 10:32. Form healthy habits:

a) Avoid words like never and always when dealing with “negative” qualities.

b) Remember compliments and words like “I’m sorry”, “Please forgive me” and “Thank you”.

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