Summary: Teaching on what conflict is, responses to conflict, and dealing with conflict.
*Note: this is from teaching from our Church of God State Headquarters under Jerry Chitwood. I thought it would be great to share. I also have powerpoint if you will email me at: email@example.com also mention the teaching. I did organize it but did not put all of it together.
Dealing with Conflict
“Where two or three come together in Jesus' name... there will eventually be conflict.”
WEBSTERS-CONFLICT: 1. :FIGHT, BATTLE, WAR 2. a. competitive or opposing action of incompatibles: antagonistic state struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes or external or internal demands 3: the opposition of person or forces that gives rise to the dramatic action in a drama or fiction.
3 Responses to Conflict
1. Denial-1 Samuel 2:22-25 Eli and his Sons
2. Flight-1 Samuel 19:9-10 David and King Saul
3. Suicide-Matthew 27:1-5 Judas
1. Assault-those of the synagogue attacked Stephen
2. Litigation - Paul (avoid Matthew 5:25-26, 1Cor 6:1-8 )
3. Murder-Acts 7:54-58 Killing of Stephen
1. Overlook an Offense-Prov 19:11
2. Reconciliation-Mat 5:23-24, Gal 6:1 “restore gently”
3. Negotiation-Phil 2:4 “not look to own interests”
4. Mediation-Mat 18:16 “two or more”
5. Arbitration-1 Corinthians 6:4 “appoint Judges”
6. Accountability-Mat 18:17 ”tell it to the church”
Our Perspective is the Key! We are Christians First!
I. See Conflict as an Opportunity (Romans 8:28-29)
I Corinthians 10:31 Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. 32 Give no offense, either to the Jews or to the Greeks or to the church of God, 33 just as I also please all men in all things, not seeking my own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved. 11:1 Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.
A. To Glorify God
B. To Serve Others
C. To Grow to be like Christ
II. Get the Log out of Your Own Eye
Matthew 7:5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."
III. Remember Your Goal is to Reconcile.
1 Corinthians 3:13 Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. 14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.
IV. Remember Your Goal is to Restore
Jesus said in the context of a loving shepherd and wandering sheep Matthew18:15 "Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.
V. Always use the Bible as the system of Negotiation
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others" (Phil 2:3-4; see Mat 22:39; 1 Cor 13:5; Mat 7:12)
1. Prepare (pray, get the facts, seek godly counsel, develop options)
2. Affirm relationships (show genuine concern and respect for others)