Summary: 84 Christlike Character Qualities that enable us to develop godly friendships.
Developing Friendships By Allowing Christ-like Character Qualities to Flow Through You
"Have this attitude in you which was also in Christ Jesus." (Phil. 2:5)
1. Be Accountable without getting hung up on doing things right and forgetting to do right things
2. Be Alert, but do not be quick to criticize, doubt or presume something missing without first looking for the silver cloud behind every dark cloud in situations and people.
3. Be All Things to All Men to win some without being insecure about your own identity, personality, outlook, convictions, experiences, callings, culture, genetics, ideas or background.
4. Be Amiable, but do not be so socially concerned that you become a man pleaser willing to do whatever it takes for people to like you.
5. Be Analytical with becoming too wrapped up in details and problems in situations or people.
6 Aspire to Greatness, but do not pursue only selfish ambitions that involve dirty politicizing.
7. Be Balanced without lacking hard convictions to do what is right even when it is unpopular.
8. Be Bold without being over-bearing, pushy or insisting on your own way.
9. Be Compassionate, but do not be overly sympathetic, empathetic, or gullible.
10. Be Confident, but do not become arrogant, high minded, and conceited.
11. Be Contextual without being inappropriate, compromising or lacking in relevance to reality.
12. Be Cooperative, but do not resort to conniving, intrigue, or under-handed tactics.
13. Be Courageous, but do not become a loose canon that shouts ones mouth off whenever you become irritated. Do not let subjective moods cloud your sense of objective purposes and processes
14. Be Courteous, but do not merely resort to superficial flattery to impress people.
15. Be Creative, but do not let your dreams dictate how you live your life. Do not let speculations, imaginations, or visions of greatness determine your sense of well being.
16. Be Decisive, but do not become so stuck in your ways that you lose flexibility.
17. Be Diligent, but do not get into one-track thinking. Do not become selfishly industrious.
18. Be Directed by the scriptures without being a legalist, a hair-splitter, dogmatic or one who fails
to realize that all truth is God's truth.
19. Be Discerning, but do not become judgmental, overly critical, or proud of your analysis.
20. Be Disciplined, but do not become rigid, harsh, overbearing, or dictatorial.
21. Be Discrete, but do not be so over-cautious that you are afraid to act on truth. Do not become so timid and afraid that you simply do not want to make any mistakes or hurt others' feelings.
22. Be Earnest, but do not become nervously meticulous, over conscientious, or over serious.
23. Be Efficient, but do not become enslaved by perfectionism, fussiness, or impatience.
24. Be Empowered by God without being too authoritative, dictatorial, or overbearing.
25. Be Enthusiastic, but not fanatical or over wrought hl your approach to solving problems.
26. Be Evangelistic without being so one tracked that you cannot talk about a person's felt needs.
27. Be Expressive without being wordy, glib, vociferous or melodramatic.
28. Be Fair-minded without being indecisive or allowing fairness issues to halt your progress.
29. Be Flexible without being wishy-washy, spineless, or a doormat for others' purposes.
30. Be Forgiving without being irresponsible in your leniency, permissiveness, or weakness.
31. Be Frank without being tactless, insensitive, undiplomatic or disrespectful.
32. Be Friendly without being nepotistic, cliquish, or tribalistic.
33. Be Frugal without being cheap, stingy, or penny wise and pound-foolish.
34. Be Generous without being extravagant, wasteful or squandering away God's resources.
35. Be Gracious without being a push over.
36. Be Grateful without being too flattering, gushy, or over generous in giving compliments.
37. Be Hateful of what is evil without becoming obnoxious or self-righteous.
38. Be Holistic without being eclectic, synergistic, or lacking focus.
39. Be Holy without being pious, Pharisaical, or self-righteous.
40. Be Honest without being legalistic, outspoken too blunt or brutal or indiscrete
41. Be Hopeful without being overly optimistic or forgetting God's sovereign future plans
42. Be Hospitable without being ingratiating, cliquish or using it as a tool for social climbing
43. Be Humble without lacking confidence or being too hard on yourself or acting like an ascetic
44. Be Humorous without being flippant, irresponsible or lacking in discernment
45. Be Insightful without being so obsessed with being right that you fail to learn by experiences
46. Be Joyful without being reliant on happy feelings to do what is right
47. Be Kind without being tolerant of what goes against the expressed will of God
48. Be Knowledgeable without being arrogant, snooty or puffed up with your own opinions
49. Be a Listener without being sympathetic to standards that are unacceptable to God
50. Be Loving without being mushy, driven by emotions or clouded in your judgment by subjectivity