Summary: Parents should understand God’s perspective of discipline and follow His example.
DISCIPILINING OUR CHILDREN
ILLUSTRATION How would like your children to study with students filled with criminals? There is a High School in Yuma, AZ whose football team’s mascot is the CRIMINALS. Its logo is a caricature of an ex-convict, a crew-cut, square jawed felon with the look of an angry gang leader.
Every time the team won a game, the local paper will announce “The Criminals won again.” Their fans are called die hard criminals. The principal is called the warden. When you visit this school, you will be welcome by a big sign “Welcome to Yuma High School. Home of the Criminals,” yes, criminals.
Actually the school acquired that title because from 1910 to 1913, Yuma High school was housed in an abandoned prison but now a tourist attraction. Classes were held in the cellblock area, assemblies in the prison hospital. Even though the school had moved, they carried with them a little bit of their history.
Today students will often say, “even though we’re criminals, we’re not bad. We’re still good students.” I wish it is also true in real life. We don’t want our children to end up with that kind of life. But keeping our children from that status requires a lot of effort on the part of the parents. One of the commitments that we must have is to discipline our children – not just provide food and shelter.
This task is tough and I would like for us to learn from the master of disciplining – God. Both parents and children should understand God’s perspective of discipline and follow God’s instruction and example. How does God discipline his spiritual children? Let us read Hebrews 12:5-11 and identify principles that will aid us in disciplining our children as well.
Why should we discipline our children?
A. Discipline is a means to develop maturity, diligence, and carefulness.
Discipline – bringing up a child and guiding it toward maturity through instruction, correction, and training. Others define it as “shaping the will.”
1. Instruction (preventive measures)
Establish reasonable expectations and boundaries in advance. The child should know what is and not acceptable behavior before he is held accountable for those rules. – divine rules, family rules, community rules. Spiritual instruction like Sunday school and DVBS can be an effective tools in achieving this task.
2. Correction (corrective measures)
Sometimes children will resist the rules and rulers by disobedience. Parents must respond with confident decisiveness. Rebuke them. Enforce the rules and if needed, let them suffer the consequences of their deviant behavior.
Afterwards we need to reassure and teach them after the confrontation is over. We need to explain why we did what did. Encourage repentance and extend forgiveness.
3. Training (skill and character development)
Recognize childish irresponsibility (forgetfulness, disorganization, wastefulness, etc.) and be gentle to teach them to do better. Show them how to do it. Reinforce, follow up, and be patient. Avoid impossible demands – be realistic and recognize your child limitations.