Summary: In the 1987 AFC Championship football game between Cleveland and Denver, Ernest Bynar fumbled the ball just as he got ready to score a touchdown. That mistake cost the Cleveland Browns the championship, a trip to the Super Bowl and is what most people rem
Enjoy Inner Restoration, Healing and Transformation (Romans 12:2)
Illustration: In the 1987 AFC Championship football game between Cleveland and Denver, Ernest Bynar fumbled the ball just as he got ready to score a touchdown. That mistake cost the Cleveland Browns the championship, a trip to the Super Bowl and is what most people remember about Ernest Bynar. Even though Ernest Bynar had an otherwise stellar fourteen year career in the NFL and is ranked 16th on the all time rushing list, many angry Cleveland fans will not forget the "infamous fumble".
Every day we too have to refuse to be pressured to live by the standards of the world. The world, the flesh and the devil pressure us to focus on our fumbles instead of our new identity in Christ and His will for our life. When we live by external validations we are forced into self-destructive patterns of perfectionism, success at all cost thinking, and feelings of inferiority when we stumble.
Paul offers us a pattern for inner healing, restoration, and transformation when he wrote, "Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and yo willknow how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is." (Romans 12:2 - New Living Translation)
The following are several blueprints that the world offers, its consequences versus the truth of God’s word that sets us free. Jesus said, "If you continue in my word, you are truly my disciples and you will know the truth and the truth will set you free." (John 8:31,32)
1. The world tells us we must perform perfectly in order to feel good about ourselves.
a. Fearing failure since I might think that my performance determines my significance. This gnawing sense of inadequacy creates anxiety, fear and unwanted stress.
b. Perfectionism causes one to put pressure on ourselves and those around us that are unreasonable, demanding and often critical of others.
c. Driven by fear instead of by faith
d. Never really satisfied or at ease with our behavior
e. Intensity about succeeding at any cost that leads one to have a critical spirit.
f. Manipulation of others so we can get our way in order to have a sense of success.
g. Withdrawal when we are afraid of taking a risk
h. Jealousy of others who succeed or compete with us
i. Feelings of inferiority that makes us retreat from the mission that God wants us to engage in
j. Self-righteous attitudes that tend to make us conceited and smug
2. The world tells us that we must please people in order to gain acceptance, approval and belonging
Consequences include: An internal fear of rejection and an over-sensitivity to criticism. Trepidation that all people are basically personally attacking us and threatening our security.
a. Withdrawal to avoid any disapproval
b. Isolation from friends, family and other believers
c. Hesistancy to witness
d. Expecting too much of ourselves in order to please others
e. Putting up unrealistic expectation on people around us to conform to our standards of what is God’s will before we give them our approval