Summary: Do Jesus's family values match ours?
We often talk about the Church being a Family - which sounds all sweet and fluffy … until we read a passage like today’s Gospel.
Given a choice between those who share his genes and those who share his faith, Jesus says “Here [point to congregation] are my mother, my sisters, my brothers. Whoever does the will of God is my mother my sister and my brother.”
Now for those who have been treated badly by their family - whose husbands have abandoned them or whose parents have abused them - this is GOOD NEWS. Here is a new family, based not on mistreatment or abuse, but on God’s love, the love and acceptance he shows to us, and the love and acceptance that (however inadequately) we seek in turn to share with each other. Families are meant to be there for each other - and if that is true of human families, how much more so is that meant to be true of the Family of Jesus. Of course we are fallen fallible failures who don’t live up to the ideals - but we are also children of God, trying to put them into practise. The church can be a family for those who have no family - be they the bereaved or the lonely or the abandoned or the abused. The church is a family for those who have no family. I can share testimonies of people for whom the church is a wonderful support … from the little things like people who would have nowhere to go for Christmas dinner if fellow church members had not invited them, to even deeper, more time consuming and more costly support through difficult times. We love to hear such stories because they are encouraging, they are good news, they make us feel good, and they are true. The church can be a family for those who have no family. “Hurrah” we all say - “Isn’t it lovely that the church is a family”.
But that is not the context in which Jesus speaks in our Gospel. Here Jesus is having a big row with his blood relatives. They think he is taking this faith thing of his too far, he needs to think about the needs of his family and reign things in a bit.
And Jesus lets them know in no uncertain terms who his true family is. It is not those who share his blood - it is those who share his faith. I agree: this is uncomfortable for us. A question: do we go to a relative’s birthday brunch or go to church? From this passage, what would Jesus’s answer be? Not the one we would like it to be! You and I will have things that to us are self evidently true: of course we would do certain things for a relative. Jesus challenges our certainties. I am not sure I am very comfortable with it. But it is there in Jesus’s words. Where do our first priorities lie? Who are our true family? “Here [point to congregation] are my mother, my sisters, my brothers. Whoever does the will of God is my mother my sister and my brother.”
Of course for some - their family will all share their faith. In the end Jesus’s mother stood at the cross and prayed with the disciples from Easter to Pentecost. In the end Jesus’s brother James became so committed to Christianity that he ended up the first bishop of Jerusalem. For some of us all our family will share our faith. But many of us will identify more with Jesus at this point in his ministry than post Easter: our family contain members who just don’t get our faith.