Summary: Part 3 - This message about how careless exercise of Christian liberties can hinder relationships.
Foundations for Healthy Personal Relationships
Part 3 – Respecting Other People’s Boundaries
August 15, 2010
NOTE: THE ME/WE/GOD/YOU/WE FORMAT IS FROM ANDY STANLEY'S BOOK, "COMMUNICATING FOR A CHANGE."
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Me: I spent my high school years in a rather permissive atmosphere.
My dad and step-mom weren’t overly strict, and so I did things that I shouldn’t have done, and that on more than one occasion should have landed me in jail. I’ve mentioned some of those things before.
After I became a Christian, and especially after getting involved in a good church, I found myself in a different kind of atmosphere, and in some ways, it was just as bad.
Not because of what we did or didn’t do, but because of the mindset I learned to adopt, and that was to think that every Christian had to think and act just like me, doing what I did, and not doing what I didn’t do.
I don’t think that was the church’s fault, as much as it was the crowd I hung out with – young Christians who I believe were really trying to live lives that would please God.
Unfortunately, we became our own little set of Pharisees who judged other Christians based on our own set of rules, not really based on Scripture.
We: If I were a betting man, I would lay odds that I’m not the only one who could make that claim, and not just about their younger years.
Some of you might be dealing with some of that right now.
I think that most Christians do, from time to time.
We tend to look at other Christians through the lenses of our own preferences and experiences and we offer acceptance to them based on how they pass through those filters.
So what does God have to say about that?
We’re going to look today at Romans 14 (p. 804-805).
Let me give you a bit of context, okay?
This passage addresses one thing in particular, and that is eating meat.
Why is this a big deal? People have been eating meat for many centuries, and they had been doing so in Rome as well.
The issue was that, according to scholars, most, if not all the meat offered in the marketplace in the Roman empire was offered to idols before it was put out for sale.
And there were people in that area whose consciences bothered them because they didn’t want to be seen as accepting or condoning idol worship.
Their heart was in the right place – they wanted to make sure they honored God even in what they eat. And that’s an admirable thing, right?
How many of us choose our food with the idea of honoring God in what we eat?
Most of us, myself included, have looked at a plate full of artery-clogging food and ask God to bless it to our bodies.
And I think God looks at us and says, “Forget that, man. You choose to eat that, you choose the high blood pressure that comes with it.”
So anyway, these Romans and others were wanting to make sure they weren’t offending God in what they ate.
In our area and time, we could talk about stuff like: