Summary: Careful: Many of life's blessings can be enjoyed, but they carry with them the potential to work against you.
Gaining Your Bearings in Life
1. I was told that I had used the joke from last week's sermon just 4 weeks earlier, about the 2 Jews, the 2 Catholics, and the 2 Baptists stranded on an island. Oops.
2. So, to redeem myself, I will tell one only about two Jews stranded on an island.
3. When they were rescued, they asked Max, "Why are there 3 synagogues on the island?" Max replied, "The Reform Synagogue is for me, the Orthodox Synagogue is for Yochanan, and the other one neither of us would be caught dead in."
4. We joke about complaining and whining, we joke about marriage, we joke about our poor estate, and we joke about bad friends. But these issues are no joking matter.
Main Idea: Careful: Many of life's blessings can be enjoyed, but they carry with them the potential to work against you.
I. Celebrate the TONGUE But Watch Out! (20-21)
So often, people think the Bible's message is "be quiet; speak minimally." Such is far from true. The Bible cautions us; more is not always better, and wordiness runs a risk. Yet positive, wholesome conversation is considered a blessing. The idea of schmoozing in the non-manipulative sense is quite biblical.
• Nuclear power: bombs or power plants; Chernobyl or Japan
A. Your tongue can make life PLEASANT (20)
• Proverbs 25:11, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver."
• Proverbs 15:23, To make an apt answer is a joy to a man, and a word in season, how good it is!
• Developing the art of conversation adds richness to our lives and those around us.
B. Your tongue can make you or BREAK you (21)
• The secret: to guard your tongue (monitor)
• DVD players that can be set to eliminate bad language…catch it
II. God Wants Most People to Marry, But to Marry WISELY (22)
A. Other proverbs QUALIFY this concept
• Proverbs 19:13-14, "A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain. House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD."
• 2 Corinthians 6:14a, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers."
B. Marriage can often be a blessing, even for FOOLISH people
Not only do most first marriages survive, the majority are also happy: "Among the nearly twenty thousand married men and women questioned over the last several decades as part of the General Social Survey, 66 percent of the husbands and 62 percent of the wives give their marriage the highest possible happiness rating" (Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage, p. 74).
But what is even more fascinating is the reward given to those who are unhappily married but choose to stick it out: "…86 percent of those who rated their marriage as unhappy in the late eighties and who were still married five years later said their marriages had become happier….nearly three-fifths of those who said their marriage was unhappy in the late 80's and who stayed married, rated this same marriage as either 'very happy' or 'quite happy' when reinterviewed in the early 1990's" (p. 74, 148).