Summary: Isaac and Rebekah had favourite sons, but what about GOD! Does He have FAVOURITES? In Romans 9:13 (NASB) God says "JACOB I LOVED, BUT ESAU I HATED."
Genesis 25:23-34 - DOES GOD HAVE FAVOURITES?
From birth ESAU has thick red hair over his body. Esau means "Hairy". His twin brother JACOB has an unfortunate name too. It means "to defraud, deceive, to displace". His name carries the idea of displacing someone, to replace or unseat someone. As Jacob is being born he is found holding onto his brother's heel, as if he is trying to trip him up. This is a picture of things to come.
Esau is the FAVOURITE SON of Isaac, his firstborn and tradition demands that he be groomed for family leadership, but Esau doesn't seem to take his role as firstborn too seriously.
Jacob is Rebekah's FAVOURITE SON. She no doubt remembers the prophecy given to her by God at his birth. Did Rebekah share with her favourite son Jacob what God had promised as he grew up, that somehow one day he would inherit the promises of God given to Abraham and pass them on to the next generation? Was it the SPIRITUAL INTEREST that Jacob showed that edged Rebekah towards favouritism?
I know that our cultural predilection is to blame our parents for our flaws, rather than take responsibility for our own thoughts, words and actions, but was it IRRESPONSIBLE for each parent to have a favourite son and did this cause unnecessary friction in the family? Perhaps Isaac and Rebekah took it too far? The Bible doesn't tell us.
But what about GOD! Does He have FAVOURITES? In Romans 9:13 (NASB) God says "JACOB I LOVED, BUT ESAU I HATED." Isaac and Rebekah don't go as far as that! It doesn't say of Isaac and Rebekah that they HATED the other son, only that they each LOVED one of them. Is this just exaggerated language to emphasise God's CHOICE of Jacob over Esau?
Ephesians 1:3-14 (NLT) says "we are UNITED WITH CHRIST. Even before He made the world, God loved us and CHOSE US IN CHRIST to be holy and without fault in His eyes. God DECIDED IN ADVANCE TO ADOPT US into His own family by bringing us to Himself THROUGH JESUS CHRIST. This is what He wanted to do, and it gave Him great pleasure...Furthermore, because we are UNITED WITH CHRIST, we have received an INHERITANCE from God, for HE CHOSE US IN ADVANCE, and He makes everything work out according to His plan."
We are PREDESTINED! CHOSEN! Did we have a choice? Does God choose to send some to hell and others to heaven? Is this what He means when He says He hates Esau and loves Jacob?
It seems to me that the words UNITED WITH CHRIST, IN CHRIST, THROUGH CHRIST are more important than we think when it comes to being CHOSEN. When I believe in Christ I APPROPRIATE His Righteousness. His Righteousness becomes mine. When I believe in Christ I appropriate ETERNAL LIFE. His life becomes mine. I am even CRUCIFIED WITH CHRIST. When He died I died to my old life and I am raised again to the new life that I have IN CHRIST.
It seems to me that God chose only ONE PERSON, the Lord Jesus Christ, and IN HIM I APPROPRIATE what is HIS when I believe in Him. Because HE is chosen before the foundation of the world I too am chosen. And I am chosen IN HIM to live out HIS HOLINESS. His purpose from the beginning was that when I believed I would appropriate His Holiness and live a holy life. He is set apart for the purposes of God and I am too in Him. God has only One favourite - His Son Jesus, but when I am found in Him I too am a favourite son. I put on Christ and God sees me as He sees Jesus.
Born into the family of God I have a BIRTHRIGHT. I receive all the riches of the things that God has PROMISED from the beginning of time to those who believe. It doesn't come to me AUTOMATICALLY because I am a good person or born into a Christian family or because I go to Church or live in a "Christian" country. It comes because of the RELATIONSHIP I have with Christ and the fact that I am IN CHRIST. Because ONE person was chosen before the earth was created, many have the opportunity to believe and enter into the promises of God. I am CHOSEN IN HIM.
One of the things that A BIRTHRIGHT carries with it is the PRIESTHOOD of the family. Fathers consecrate their firstborn sons to God (Exodus 22:29). They look after the family concerning their spiritual life in serving God. The firstborn has the responsibility of building and worshiping God at the altar (Genesis 22:9; 26:25; 35:1; etc.), as well sharing God's word and His promises to his family.