Summary: Simple and profound tips for effective parenting. Parenting made very simple. How to make your children obey and trust you.
Parenting made simple and easy.
Our spouse and children are one of life’s blessings given to us by God. God has a plan and purpose for every individual, every family, and every child that is born. Today I want to speak on effective parenting.
GOD’S PLAN FOR THE FAMILY
See what God spoke to Abraham regarding his children. Genesis 18:18-19 18 Abraham will surely become a great and powerful nation, and all nations on earth will be blessed through him. 19 For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.”
Remember God has chosen Abraham and given him promises. In order for God’s promises to be fulfilled Abraham will have to direct his children and his household in fulfilling what God has asked them to do. So we have a responsibility to direct our family in the way of the Lord.
BIBLICAL CONCEPT ABOUT CHILDREN
Children are God’s possession.
Psalm 127:3 Children are a heritage from the Lord.
The term heritage means property or possession, which refers to the ancestral property that we inherit from our father. Children are the Lord’s possession, the Lord’s property. God assigns them to be grown under the parents’ care. So our children belong to God, we are just caretakers. I have to take care of them diligently.
Children are a reward.
Psalm 127:3b Offspring a reward from him.
Reward means – gift of appreciation, of pleasure, of joy.
Children are never to be viewed as a sign of God’s displeasure or His punishment for man’s sin. The fruit of the womb is the trophy of God’s love. Wise parents and grandparents take pleasure in children. Children bring joy into our lives. A world without children would be a dull world. Their zest, their laughter, their excitement, their unique way of viewing things adds to the fullness to the life of parents.
Every child is unique.
Hebrews 11:23 NASB By faith Moses, when he was born, was hidden for three months by his parents, because they saw he was a beautiful child; and they were not afraid of the king’s edict.
Moses’ parents considered him beautiful, a special child. They already had two children by now, Miriam and Aaron and the king’s edict was against Moses. But the parents found him beautiful. Now how do you know which child of yours is beautiful, talented or smart? Every child is beautiful. Every child is uniquely formed by God.
I have two children; Sam and grace. Both of them are so different.
Our Indian mindset segregates children based on their colour, capacity to study, male and female. Some consider girls are not beautiful and some kill them in the womb and some put their newborn near garbage bins or railway tracks, some differentiate beauty based on color and some on looks. If you are unable to love your children equally and treat them special, it is the heathen mindset. Kingdom mindset sees every child equal and special. Remember, there is also no accident child in the Kingdom. You would not have planned for a child, but God formed that child fearfully and wonderfully in the mother’s womb.
Psalm 78:1-4 1My people, hear my teaching; listen to the words of my mouth. 2I will open my mouth with a parable; I will utter hidden things, things from of old—3things we have heard and known, things our ancestors have told us. 4We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, his power, and the wonders he has done.
Godly parenting is to revolve the family around the centrality of God.
Psalm 78:4 We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, his power, and the wonders he has done.
Children are not highest value – God is. Yes, children are precious, children are a God’s possession, children are a reward from God, and they are special but children are not the highest value – God is. God should be the number one priority of the parents. For that case even your husband-wife relationship is not one the number one priority. God comes above my spouse and my children. Godly parenting revolve the family around the centrality of God.
Godly parenting is to teach God’s word.
Psalm 78:5-6 5He decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law in Israel, which he commanded our ancestors to teach their children 6so the next generation would know them, even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children.