Summary: This is a deeper study to go alongside of the Sermon on Learning How to Forgive. It can be used as a handout with a small group as you discuss how to learn better and exercise the grace of forgiveness.

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"Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you." - Ephesians 4:32 (ESV)

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

― Lewis B. Smedes, Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills, your colleague sabotaged a project or your partner had an affair. Perhaps someone called you stupid or put your down. Perhaps someone even hurt your physically, emotionally or sexually. All of these cause wounds that can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance.

We all can find ourselves automatically shaking our heads in agreement when we hear of someone stating that they will not forgive after they have been harmed; especially if that harm has been suffered by a child. And yet, forgiveness is one of the main centerpieces of Christianity and is one of the wonderful ways we can help ourselves and others.

As followers of Jesus we all have as one of our life's goals to be:

1. A forgiving person

2. To learn how to be better at forgiving

3. Learning how to forgive a particular hurt.

Scripture is clear that we are to be both forgiven and forgiving.

Matthew 6:12 - "and forgive us our debts (sins) as we also have forgiven our debtors (those who have sinned against us)" - ESV

Parable of the Unforgiving Servant - Matthew 18:21-35

Parable of the Prodigal Son - Luke 15:11-32

Peter's Question and Jesus' Answer - Matthew 18:21-22

Paul's Instruction to the Early Church - Ephesians 4:31-32/Colossians 3:12-15; Romans 12:14-21

Jesus' Premier Example on the Cross - Luke 23:34

Stephen's ability to be like Jesus - Acts 7:55-56

What is Forgiveness?

The Bible uses several words for forgiveness:

Old Testament - The words "forgive" and "forgiveness" in the Old Testament of the English Bi┬Čble1 are the translation of three Hebrew words, namely kaphar, nake and saletch. All three words have the similar meanings - to cover, to purge, to pardon, to lift someone up.

New Testament - There are four main words used in the original Greek New Testament in relation to the forgiveness or pardon of our sins or crimes against God. These are the verb “aphiemi”, its associated noun “aphesis”, “charizomai” and “apoluo”. Like their OT counterparts, each conveys meanings of letting go, canceling a debt, set free, release, pardon etc...

Some modern day incorrect definitions of forgiveness:

a. Forgiveness means forgetting

b. Forgiveness means excusing the person for having done something wrong

c. Forgiveness means realizing that the person was justified in their sinful act(s)

Everett L. Worthington, Jr. helps us with defining forgiveness as part of a 2 step process:

1. First of all there is DECISIONAL FORGIVENESS

"Forgiveness which involves declaring that one is not going to seek revenge or avoid the other person but will do his or her best to get along in the future."

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