Summary: WE can heal from the pain of conflcit, but we need to do it the way Jesus calls us to do so!
• SLIDE #1
• Over the past two weeks during our mini-series, we have been looking at the fun and uplifting subject of conflict. Well maybe not a fun and uplifting subject.
• In week one we examined some ways in which we could prevent conflict before it gets started. Last week in week two we saw how our words could either pour water on a fire.
• Today we will conclude our series with the issue of healing from the hurt of conflict.
• What do we need to do so that we can heal, what do we need to do so that the pain will not act like a ball and chain for the rest of our lives?
• Something that is important for us to realize is this, restoration or a relationship, healing from the pain starts with you!
• We have a tendency to focus on our hurt, our pain instead of our hearts, our actions, and our attitudes.
• As long as we keep the focus on OUR hurt, OUR pain, the wrong done to us we will have an extremely hard time experiencing the joy of the restoration of a once broken relationship or the joy of full healing from the hurt caused by conflict.
• I see it a lot in people, they cannot let go so they live with destroyed relationships and they let the pain cripple their lives.
• We need to focus on some areas so that we can do our part to rebuild the relationship that is left in tatters from conflict.
• We will not always be able to restore a broken relationship BUT we can all heal from the hurt if we choose to.
• Let us begin our exploration today in Ephesians 4:25!
• SLIDE #2
• Ephesians 4:25 (HCSB) Since you put away lying, Speak the truth, each one to his neighbor, because we are members of one another.
• SLIDE #3
I. Focus on speaking the truth.
• We talked about making sure that our words helped people to discern the truth from error.
• Now as we heal from the hurt, we need to make sure that we SPEAK the truth.
• We to make sure our words about the conflict or any other situation are 100% truthful.
• Lying includes more than simply telling direct falsehoods. It also includes exaggeration, adding falsehood to that which begins as true. MacArthur New Testament Commentary, The - MacArthur New Testament Commentary – Ephesians.
• The issue of speaking truth also includes misrepresentation and deceit in what we say.
• If we were in error in our thinking when it came to the conflict, we need to make sure that we do not let subtly imply that the other party was 100% at fault.
• In the direct context of the passage, people were being hurt by others who were following false teaching, and there were those who were covering up their mistake by not being truthful about it.
• The key to the whole message today, the key to being able to being able to heal from the hurt is found in the simple word in verse 25 SINCE! Really?
• Verse 25 says SINCE YOU PUT AWAY LYING, SPEAK THE TRUTH.
• All the steps Paul will list for us is predicated on our ability to set aside the hurt and pain and make sure we act and react like one who has been transformed.