1. The Holy Spirit teaches us about the severe damage that can be done by uncontrolled anger. The Spirit of God reminds us of the destructive consequences that came upon Cain who said, "My punishment is more than I can bear. Today you are driving me from the land, and I will be hidden from your presence; I will be hidden from your presence; I will be a restless wanderer on the earth." (Gen 4:13,14) Ask the Lord to remind you of the terrible consequences of uncontrolled anger: Esau (Gen. 27:45); Simeon and Levi (Gen 49:5-7); Moses (Numb. 20:10,11); Balaam (Numb 22:27); Saul (I Sam. 20:30); Ahab (I Kings 21:4 (quickview) ); Naaman (2 Kings 5:11 (quickview) ); Asa (2 Chron. 16:10); Uzziah (2 Chron 26:19); Haman (Esther 3:5 (quickview) ); Nebuchadnezzar (Dan. 3:13); Jonah (Jon 4:4); Herod (Matt. 2:16); Jews (Luke 4:28 (quickview) ); High Priest (Acts 5:17 (quickview) ;7:54) Ask the Lord to help you overcome feelings of anger with Christ’s peace and self-control.
2. The Holy Spirit helps us understand why we feel so angry or frustrated. Paul knew something about uncontrolled anger and frustration in his experience with the Corinthians. He wrote, "You are still wordly. For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not wordly? For when one says, ‘I follow Paul,’ and another, ‘I follow Apollos,’ are you not mere men?" (I Cor. 3:3,4) Ask the Lord to help you to not take things so personally or feel that you are being rejected, abused or mistreated without the Lord being able to work all things together for your good. (Rom. 8:28,29)
3. The Holy Spirit comforts us and instructs us when we are feeling threatened, treated unjustly or taken advantage of. Solomon wrote, "The righteous man is rescued from trouble, and it comes on the wicked instead. With his mouth the godless destroys his neighbor, but through knowledge the righteous escape." (Prov. 11:8,9) Ask the Lord to comfort and instruct you to know how to respond when you are provoked.
4. The Holy Spirit helps us surrender our rights to the Lord when we are tempted to lash out in anger. Peter wrote, "Casting all your cares upon Him for He cares for you." (I Pet. 5:8) Ask the Lord to help you to turn over your rights, desires, and hurt feelings to the Lord allowing Him to fight your battles for you.
5. The Holy Spirit knows how to assist each personality type with anger control guidelines. Choleric people normally fall into an autocratic mode when they feel attacked or angered. These individuals need to learn how to listen to the Lord and wise counselors without feeling they have to control everything to feel successful. Sanguine people usually respond by attacking another when they feel attacked or angered. These individuals need to learn how to remind themselves of the need to put away anger, slander, and all forms of malice even when they feel their reputation may be damaged. Phlegmatic people tend to acquiesce when they are attacked or angered choosing to be a peace regardless of its consequences. These individuals need to learn to be courageous regardless of the price they may have to temporarily suffer for Christ. Melancholy people normally try to avoid anyone who shows anger. These individuals choose to isolate themselves from many people as they are controlled more by their fear than by faith. Ask the Lord to give you wisdom to know how to nurture, instruct and counsel all personality types in your church in ways of coping more effectively with their feelings of anger.