Summary: EVER GRIN AT SIN! Maintaining purity means maintaining the capacity to be shocked by sin. Joseph did not say, well let’s talk about this for a while. He did not say, well Potiphers wife, I am really not in the mood. He said, How can I do this wicked thing and sin against my God.
HOW TO AFFAIR PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE!
We are bombarded with the subtle attempts of our culture to get you to soften your guard.
•Just go to your local theater and watch the silver screen and all you have to do is cut away at the heart pounding music and the suave acting along with the glamorous photography and you basically are watching folks at your local theater committing out and out adultery.
•As if that were not enough, we bring it unto our homes while watching the latest TV program.
•We have over time have become morally desensitized to the sexual perversion that is prevalent in your culture
Over the years I have worked with many families and especially married couples. It is inevitable that at some given point couples will go thru some problem.
There may be patches of boredom, financial strain, lack of passion, desperation and anger.
Couples will try to put a little tang in their relationship. Some couples will struggle with moments of sexual temptation.
I have even heard so called pundits of marriage coaches espouse that an extra marital affair might be helpful for your marriage.
Do we really want to send out a mix message that a little extra marital affair is dandy if it makes you happy as long as you don’t get caught.
•I know some of you may be uncomfortable. I also know that what I am saying is not fashionable and is not politically correct. But the Bible has never been concerned about political correctness.
•And if movies and magazines and messages that condone adultery are fine with you then you need to be a little bit offended today by what I say.
Because the Bible says something quite different. The Bible says that adultery dishonors God. Sexuality is God’s creation for intimacy in marriage. It is God’s designed vehicle for celebrating and strengthening the marriage covenant.
God’s plan for marriage is oneness. God gave man and women the appetite for sexual union to strengthen the marriage covenant and have real intimacy.
God who designed sex and marriage is displeased when sex is used to break rather than build the covenant of marriage
•Adultery abuses Gods symbol of pledged fidelity.
I Thessalonians 4:3-7 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body[a] in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister.[b] The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. 7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
Hebrews 13:4-5 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Adultery destroys marriages. Just look at the story of David and Bathsheba. Before the story is over ---
An infant has died
A husband has been murdered
A family has been ripped apart
We know that society is made up of a union of families.
Communities do not thrive when families do not function.
Families do not function when marriages do not last
And marriages do not last when there is mistrust do to adultery.
That is why God said to Moses in giving the Ten Commandments, “Do not commit adultery”
One time a man wrote to dear Abby and said. I AM HAVING AN AFFAIR with two different women and I can’t marry them. Please tell me what to do but don’t give me any of that morality stuff.
Abby wrote back and said, “Dear Sir, The only difference in humans and animals is morality. Please write to a Veterinarian!
•Adultery brings pain:
Proverbs 5:1-5 My son, pay attention to my wisdom, turn your ear to my words of insight, that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve knowledge. For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.
Proverbs 6:32 But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself.
To get a handle on how to affair proof your marriage – let’s look at this guy name Joseph who was sold into slavery. He works now in Egypt for a man name Potiphar.
Genesis 39:6 -10;11-12 6 So Potiphar left everything he had in Joseph’s care; with Joseph in charge, he did not concern himself with anything except the food he ate. Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, 7 and after a while his master’s wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Come to bed with me!”