Summary: I talk about the dangers of adultery and give some ways to begin affair proofing your marriage.
Intro: Moral relativism is becoming the norm. A group of college students were asked their opinions on the media, specifically the R-rated kinds of situations being show on TV and the movies. When asked why sex and violence were so prevalent, one student answered, “Because it’s no big deal.”
It’s no big deal anymore to have an extramarital fling. It’s no big deal to wait until you are married to have sex. Unfortunately this is the message that many people have towards faithfulness in marriage. And unfortunately it is costing so many people a lot of pain and heartache.
(Word on the street video). The question is asked, “Why do you think married people end up having affairs?”
Transition: We continue our look at the book of Proverbs. In chapters 5-7 the wisdom writer(s) talk about adultery. Just to be sure we are all on the same page adultery is the word used when someone who is married has sexual relations with someone other than their spouse. Adultery is spoken of here as an example of someone who is being “unwise” and “foolish.”
Proverbs gives us a practical look at the dangers of adultery and what can happen to an individual and family if it occurs. Read Proverbs 6:20-35
ILLUSTRATION: When a husband and wife were shopping at a mall, a shapely young woman in a short, form-fitting dress strolled by. His eyes followed her. Without looking up from the item she was examining, his wife asked, “Was it worth the trouble you are in?”
ILLUSTRATION: Many people feel that the grass is always greener on the other side. Well, try telling that to the guy who discovered poison ivey!
There is always a cost to living outside of God’s boundries. This passage in Proverbs teaches us that it is easier to make restitution for something you stole than make amends for adultery. There is a cost to adultery. For the Bible teaches us that sex is good, wholesome and healthy. But the Bible teaches there are some conditions to it—as long as it remains in a marriage relationship between a man and a woman committed to each other. When it is taken outside it intended use…there are risks. There’s the physical danger to it of disease. ILLUSTRATION: There was a teenage boy and his grandfather who went fishing one day. While fishing, the old man starts talking about how times have changed. The young fellow picks up on this and starts talking about problems and sexually transmitted diseases going around. The teen says, “Grandpa, they didn’t have a whole lot of problems with all these diseases when you were young did they?” Grandpa replies, “Nope.” The teen says, “Well, what did you guys use for safe sex?” Grandpa replies, “wedding ring.”
Sex is more than just the physical. There is an emotional and spiritual side to it too. Geneses 2:24 says, for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. That being united and becoming one flesh was intended to be with one partner—your spouse. When an affair takes place that covenant is broken…trust is broken. You are doing with someone else what God intended strictly for your spouse. It is not to be thrown around.
Preachers and parents are real good about telling parishioners or children what to do and what not to do. But do we do a good job explaining why? Here what the word of the Lord says regarding any kind of sexual immorality:
If those aren’t reasons enough to do all we can to affair proof our marriages I don’t know what is. Let me encourage you to do remember a few things:
1). Stay away from tempting situations.
Now, I know we cannot steer clear from all temptations but you and I both know there are all kinds of opportunities to get “into trouble” with our purity if we are not careful.
ILLUSTRATION: An old American Indian tale recounts the story of a chief who was telling a gathering of young braves about the struggle within. “It is like two dogs fighting inside of us,” the chief told them. “There is one good dog who wants to do the right and the other dog wants to do the wrong. Sometimes the good dog seems stronger and is winning the fight. But sometimes the bad dog is stronger and wrong is winning the fight.” “Who is going to win in the end?” a young brave asks. The chief answered “The one you feed.”
The more you give in to temptation the more you are feeding the drive to be reckless sexually.
2). Be intoxicated by your spouses love.