Summary: What does God’s word tell us about dealing with our anger. Let’s look at this together that we may live peaceably together.
Jim Taylor in Currents tells the following story about his friend, Ralph Milton: One morning Ralph woke up at five o’clock to a noise that sounded like someone repairing boilers on his roof. Still in his pajamas, he went into the back yard to investigate. He found a woodpecker on the TV antenna, "pounding its little brains out on the metal pole." Angry at the little creature who ruined his sleep, Ralph picked up a rock and threw it. The rock sailed over the house, and he heard a distant crash as it hit the car. In utter disgust, Ralph took a vicious kick at a clod of dirt, only to remember -- too late -- that he was still in his bare feet. Uncontrolled anger, as Ralph learned, can sometimes be its own reward.
Jim Taylor, Currents.
What Should we know of Anger?
Anger: the growth of anger is dangerous. Unresolved anger festers and can become uncontrollable and give birth to murder.
There are three steps in the growth of anger given here.
1.The anger that broods, that is selfish. It harbors malice; it will not forget; it lingers; it broods; it wills and sometimes seeks revenge.
2.The anger that holds contempt (hraka.) It despises; it ridicules; it arrogantly exalts self and calls another person empty and useless. This is an anger that is full of malice. It despises and scorns. It arises from pride—a proud wrath (Proverbs 21:24). Such feelings or anger walk over and trample a person. It says that whatever ill comes upon a person is deserved.
3.The anger that curses. It seeks to destroy a man and his reputation morally, intellectually, and spiritually.
There can be a justified anger.
We are admonished to be angry with those who sin and do wrong, and are unjust and selfish in their behavior. However, a justified anger is disciplined and controlled; it is always limited to those who do wrong against God or against others. The difference between justified and unjustified anger is that justified anger is never selfish; it is never shown because of what has happened to oneself. It is purposeful and the believer knows they are angry for a legitimate reason, and they seek to correct the situation in the most peaceful way possible (Ephes. 4:26-27; Romans 12:18; John 2:14-17).
“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath” (Ephes. 4:26).
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peacably with all men” (Romans 12:18).
“And the Jews’ passover was at hand, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem, and found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting: and when he had made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changer’s money, and overthrew the tables” (John 2:13-16).
Anger is cast against many. Too often hurt feelings exist between those who are supposed to be the closest: husband and wife, parent and child, neighbor and friend, employer and employee. The Lord is clear about the matter: we must never allow anger to take hold of us without just cause.