Summary: How To Resolve Conflicts Between People During Church Planting Main Biblical Text - Eph. 4:28-32
How To Resolve Conflicts Between
People During Church Planting
Main Biblical Text - Eph. 4:28-32
"Content makes poor men rich; discontent makes rich men poor."
1. The students will explain the reasons for conflicts between people who are trying to plant and grow churches.
2. The students will list five things that help them overcome conflicts.
3. The students will write a short paper describing how we should Biblically view conflicts in the ministry.
Definition - Conflict is a difference between people that can be resolved by those who are willing to treat one another with respect and to speak the truth in love. Eph. 4:15
Example - One man hoping to marry could not decide whom to marry. Promising both girls that he would marry them, he decided to try to get both of them impregnated to see which would produce a son for him. Unfortunately, the plan backfired on him. Both girls became pregnant so they packed their things into the man’s parents house waiting for the delivery of the babies!!
Soon, both girls found out that the boy had promised to marry both of them which made them angry at each other, mad at the boy, and equally hostile toward the parents for raising such a wicked son. The next morning, one of the girls’ goat got killed by a lorry passing by on the road. The girl flew into a rage over the parents’ apparent neglect whom she blamed for the loss of her goat. After speaking several disrespectful words to the parents, the girl packed her bags and left. The boy thought he had all his problems solved, until, the second girl left because of the boy’s refusal to give her anything to help with the costs of drugs for her pregnancy related illnesses. Now the boy was left without either girl, without harmonious relations with his family, and shamed by the whole tribe for his foolish ways!!
All of these problems could have been averted if the boy would have applied the Biblical principles of conflict resolution!!!!
I. Factors behind conflicts-
A. Conflict is a natural part of growth and is therefore inevitable with families, friends, and neighbors. Conflicts usually result from people’s different perceptions. We must allow one another the freedom to have different opinions and choices which can help people grow, change, and develop. (Gal. 5:13)
``As imperfect human beings we are always going to be subject to conflict, misunderstanding, and misinterpretations until as Christians we are ushered into heaven.’’
B. Values and needs (perceived, real, and felt needs) that are expressed are at the root of causes behind conflicts.
Example - One man said, ``I need a wife.’’ When he got a wife, he said, ``I need a son.’’ When he got a son he said, ``I need some money to raise my son.’’ When he got some money he said, ``I need another wife because my wife can no longer have any children and my son has become an armed robber.’’ What the man said he needed was his perception of his need. What he really needed was to do the will of God and say,