Summary: Excerpt from the book, Living Forgiven
Humility is beyond a shadow of a doubt the most significant element of forgiveness. It is directly opposed to pride. Where pride seeks selfish gain, humility seeks selfless gain. True humility is to esteem another more greatly than yourself.
To humble oneself before God in repentance is mandatory for all believers. As you have seen previously, the sin of pride is at the root of all evil. Self-exaltation and rebellion is what caused Satan to be "cut down to the ground."
Satan was at one time called Lucifer which means "son of the morning." He was filled with pride and said in his heart, "I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High." (Isaiah 14:12-14 (quickview)  KJV) As a direct result, both he and his co-conspirators were thrown out of heaven.
"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble" (1 Peter 5:5 (quickview) ), "therefore humble yourselves, not only one to another, but to the great God, whose judgments are coming upon the world, and must begin at the house of God; his hand is almighty, and can easily pull you down if you be proud, or exalt you if you be humble; and he will certainly do it, either in this life, if he sees it best for you, or at the day of general retribution." (1 Peter 4:17 (quickview) )
Humbling yourself before others is necessary. It is sad when we see dissension and grievances in the church. One who was slighted by another may make disparaging remarks in return; a misunderstanding may cause anger. These all have in common one significant theme: "They hurt my feelings!" "They made me angry!" "They can’t do that to me!"
All of this is self-centeredness. Me, myself, and I can be our three worst enemies.
I have seen bitter squabbling result from one church member sitting in somebody else’s usual pew! Even more unbelievable was when a friendship was virtually dissolved between two women because one spoke to another woman in the church before greeting the friend!
I’m sure you can think of many such instances yourself. Pride is usually the cause of most dissension and disputes in the church. We get our feelings hurt because we are a proud and arrogant people.
Humility is an acquired behavior resulting from the old nature being put to death and becoming a new creation in Christ Jesus. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17 (quickview) )
Throughout my business life I had "entrepreneurial" drive and motivation. Success, based upon the work of my own hands, was my ambition. I have done almost everything I’ve ever wanted to do and been-for the most part-successful. There was a time, however, when everything I did turned sour. No matter how hard I prayed, fasted, and sought the counsel of those more experienced than I, nothing would go right. Every possible option was considered and tried. We revamped the business plan, changed locations, and tried different approaches to advertising. Nothing seemed to work. I even surrendered to the possibility of closing the business and working for someone else, so I sent out hundreds of résumés, but no one offered me a job.